Parvati Magazine October 2014- Equilibrium | Page 6

POSITIVE POSSIBILITIES

FINDING BALANCE
In Relationships

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e are constantly in relationship with friends, family, spouses, our communities and with
all that exists around us. We also have the very important inner relationship with our self,
which sets the foundation for the way we interact with all else.
Sometimes painful relationships can become life patterns, revisiting the same scenarios again
and again. We may want change but too often try to transform our external world into what
we want it to be, rather than witnessing what is and challenging our core beliefs.

“Do we truly feel
that we can
be loved?”

Relationships themselves are an abundant source
of learning, when we understand why we are in
them. When we see relationships as a gift and opportunity to learn to truly love others and ourselves
in this moment, we evolve deeply and quickly. The
Chinese Taoist master Lao Tzu from the sixth century
B.C. reminds us: “If you look to others for fulfillment,
you will never be truly fulfilled.” Yogis, sages and
spiritual masters tell us to look within to find lasting
joy. So we know that the key to finding balance in
relationships starts from finding balance in our relationship with our self.
To do so, we must go within and look at what we
believe about relationships. Do we truly feel that
we can be loved? Do we sincerely feel that love
exists? Maybe consciously we do, but deeper,
maybe we do not feel we deserve to be loved. As