Parent Magazine St. Johns January 2019 | Page 14

CATCH THEM IN THE ACT DONʼT OVERLOOK THE LITTLE THINGS If you notice your child going above and beyond, let him know you feel proud. I was wondering if I was nagging my daughter too much about extending kindness to the new girl in dance class. Then I met her mother at the fall mixer and she commented that her daughter always speaks highly of my daughter. Rather than mostly focusing on correcting negative behavior, I try to make a point of telling my daughter when she makes me proud. This was one of those times. Hold doors open for those behind and ahead of you. Teach kids to reply, “You’re welcome,” when someone thanks them for anything. Ask them to smile at seniors and say hello to folks who walk by with well-behaved pets. When a friend wears something pretty to school, teach your child how to offer a genuine compliment. Sincerity is important. Make sure your kids know what it means and don’t try to use compliments to snow people. SHARING CLOSE TO HOME BE A GOOD TIPPER Feed the birds around your home all year long. Get kids involved in taking stray pets to a local no-kill shelter if they are in need of a new home. Bring frozen meals or warm muffins to an ailing senior or neighbor who has just delivered her third baby. Get the kids to mow someone’s lawn a couple of times, bring in the mail, and feed the pets for a neighbor on vacation. Small unselfish acts can boost kids’ self-esteem and make them feel like more integral members of the community. Let kids help you work out 15% for tips on restaurant meals and then teach them how to tack on a little extra. The waitress at the restaurant works hard — so does your local barista, postal delivery person, and babysitter. Talk to kids about creating a holiday thank you gift together to express your family’s appreciation and then add in a small cash bonus or gift card. Christina Katz is an author, freelance journalist, and writing coach. Her favorite memories are those times someone was generous towards her during tough times. She strives to cultivate compassion in her personal life and in her work life. Reach Out And Give by Cheri J Meiners M.Ed. Under The Lemon Moon by Edith Hope Fine The Quiltmaker’s Gift by Jeff Brumbeau The Berenstain Bears, The Joy Of Giving by Mike and Jan Berenstain The Giving Book, Open The Door To A Lifetime Of Giving by Ellen Sabin How To Be An Everyday Philanthropist By Nicole Bouchard Boles The Kid’s Guide To Service Projects By Barbara A. Lewis One Good Deed A Day, A Journal From Chronicle Books 12 | S T . J O H N S parent MAGAZINE