Designate tech-free spaces .
Silence or put away electronics during homework and chore time and during family-oriented activities . Meals in particular present a rich opportunity to connect with your kids without electronic distractions .
“ We no longer plant vegetables or quilt on the front porch together so meal time is one of the few times of the day when a family connects with one another ,” says Dr . Anne Fishel , author of Home for Dinner : Mixing Food , Fun and Conversation for a Happier Family and Healthier Kids . “ If family members are distracted by checking their phones and other screens , they miss out on the chance to really focus on each other , and convey that essential message –– ‘ you come first .’”
Studies find that families who eat dinner together experience lower rates of substance abuse , depression and teen pregnancy . Kids who regularly eat dinner with their families are also more likely to have higher self-esteem , better grades and even stronger vocabularies .
Engage with technology together .
According to researchers at Arizona State University , gaming together offers teachable moments to share values and explore creative problem solving .
“ Parents miss a huge opportunity when they walk away from playing video games with their kids . Many video games are meant to be shared and can teach young people about science , literacy and problem solving ,” says researcher Elisabeth Hayes , Delbert & Jewell Lewis Chair in Reading & Literacy and professor in ASU ’ s Mary Lou Fulton Teachers College .
Use technology together in other ways to strengthen communication skills and creativity . Invite your child to FaceTime or Skype with grandparents . Show her how to start a private blog about one of her favorite subjects . Take digital photos together and collaborate on a photo book or a calendar .
By taking a proactive , balanced approach to technology with boundaries firmly in place , you can focus on using technology to complement rather than control your life while growing closer and happier as a family .
Control the games and apps that your child downloads by implementing a parent-controlled password into your device .
Some electronic devices and software allow you to set time limits on games and online activity .
Check out CommonSenseMedia . org for reviews of apps , games and other media .
Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Hines and her husband are the parents of two boys who are charmed by all things digital . Christa ’ s latest book is Happy , Healthy & Hyperconnected : Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World .
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