Kids in Care?
Having someone else raise your kids hurts and its easy to become resentful towards those doing the caring. For short and long term caregivers they to can become resentful towards the parent if they feel like you do, that all they hear about is the bad things from social workers repeating concerns or in written reports. Once in a while try sending a THANK YOU card. You may not feel like there's anything to be thankful for but sit down and think a bit about it. Even if the card reads, thank you for the children's smiles (Works for both caregiver or parent) or thank you the kids looked great today. Don't write anything more than one line and focus only on the positive when you write it.
Always hand it to the social worker to give to the caregiver and don't seal it so they can read it (scan it first if worried they will say something was written in it that wasn't). Building where you can small positive thoughts helps people see less of the negative and where caregivers for example are asked to report back to the social worker about the kids behaviours after access if the caregiver is writing this from a positive frame of mind it can reflect far better on you. Remember you do not have to like them but find one thing that you like and go from there. CAREGIVERS.. parents like to feel they are still an important part of their child's life and although you may find at times dealing with the parents hard please keep this in mind. Give a thank you card which shows that you are seeing the good that they do and that you value who they are. Never forget the reason those kids are so beautiful is from who gave them the genetic profile