Oxfordshire Bereavement Guide | Page 12

FUNERALS What choices do you have for the funeral? How do you arrange the funeral? A funeral can be either by burial or by cremation. What are your rights under the law? There are many different types of funeral and it is useful to remember that: •  ou can decide for yourself what form any ceremony you choose to y have should take •  do not have to use a funeral director - though the vast majority you of people do •  ou can choose a religious, humanist or civil ceremony y •  ou can choose a ceremony that reflects any religious beliefs or y multicultural traditions •  our ceremony does not have to take place in a crematorium or y place of worship •  ou don’t have to hold the funeral ceremony in a licensed building y it can be held in your home •  ou can be buried on private land, such as your own garden, as long y as there is nothing in the deeds restricting the use of the property – please refer to the Natural Death Centre’s website, www.naturaldeath.org.uk for further information, including any legal aspects of which you must be aware. The main legal requirements in England and Wales are: •  he death has to be certified t by a doctor or coroner •  he death is registered by a t Registrar of births and deaths •  ou may keep the body of y the person who has died at home until the day of the arranged funeral •  he body should either be t cremated or buried •  here is no legal requirement t to have any kind of funeral ceremony at all. You can organise it with or without the help of a funeral director and personalise it as much as you wish. In some cases the deceased may have planned their own funeral in advance. Some simple ways in which you can personalise a funeral service: •  hink about the music - you may not want to use traditional organ t music. You might prefer a CD, ipod or live music. Discuss it with relatives, your funeral director, the crematorium and the person you have chosen to conduct the funeral ceremony •  hink about individual contributions – you might want to include a t tribute, a reading, a poem or a favourite story. Plan a running order that will provide you with the kind of ceremony you want •  onsider using personal items as part of the ceremony. These will help c to reflect the person who has died and make the ceremony more special. f