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Where are my single lover-dolls
at? I have a questions for you. A
question about l’amour!
What do the following three
things have in common:
Liturgical celebration of Christian martyrs.
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spa days and gallons of lube. But
for many, loneliness will set in and
all of the red roses and red velvet
flocked boxes of candy will change
from crimson,to purple, to
cerulean. Sometimes Valentine’s
Day just sucks. But it doesn’t have
to if you can come around to Minerva’s way of thinking.
The beginning of spring.
Celebration of romantic love.
Depending on your religious
preferences and your location in
the world, these three seemingly
unrelated topics are celebrations
called “Valentine’s Day.” Of
course, most of us have now associated it with the latter: Romantic
love. Those randy folks in the 14th
century are to blame, for taking
the chance to celebrate romantic
love. And why not? In the 1300s if
someone was lucky enough to live
past 21, they would likely be dead
by 45 (that pesky plague thing,
don’tcha know). While the fantastical ideals of courtly love were
alive and well and very inspirational, it has given us a holiday
that we seem to either love or
hate as the fickle arrow of Cupid
dictates.
Love is a human desire. It is
something that knows neither
color nor age; neither race nor
creed; neither orientation nor social status. For many LGBTQ people celebrating same-sex marriage
this year, or as I prefer to call it,
“marriage.” Valentine's is bound to
be full of gifts and chocolates,
doves and roses, romantic dinners,
Some people will be lucky
enough to be with the one’s they
love. Some will be unlucky enough
to be without them. That doesn’t
mean you can’t get through it.
Don’t be a martyr: Don’t throw
yourself on the pyre of the loveless
and forlorn. The last thing you
want in your life is to be a martyr
to your own heart. Instead of
thinking of the love you have lost
or have never found, think of the
love you have had or that may
burst forth in showy profusion tomorrow. Don’t pollute the heart
shaped pool of your mind with
negativity.
Spring into action: Use this
schmoopiest of holidays to practice
a little self-love. (No, NOT that
kind…well…that kind too! After all,
you should be loving yourself most
of all). So you are alone on Valentine’s and it bugs you. Eat your favorite meal and leave room for
your favorite dessert. Cuddle up
with a favorite hobby, book or
movie. Love can also be actively
fanning the fires of your own personal desires. Feed that passion in
your life and you will glow with
the light that only loving yourself
can provide. Spoil yourself rotten
because I bet you have probably
been far harder on yourself than
anyone else has been. Knowing
your own value will show you that
no number of conversation hearts
will suffice if they are being given
by someone who doesn’t love you
in a real way. Better single than
sorry!
Celebrate Love: Love is not
something that you do. Love is
something that exists and ebbs
and flows and changes and