On The Path - January 2014 | Page 24

Sex & Sensuality

Pillow Talk (Part II)

Communicating with the one you love

Affinity is a term used in chemistry to describe the tendency of one substance to enter into and remain in combination with another substance. The result of affinity is bonding. When two substances with affinity for each other come together, they bond forming a more permanent connection. Each has something the other is lacking. On a simplified level, it is the attraction of opposites seeking to balance themselves.

Human bonding can be so similar to chemical bonding that we often refer to it as “chemistry.” We may not always understand why we feel drawn to someone, but the feeling is there, nonetheless, and it is often irresistible.

Most often, the person has something in his or her energy field that we want or need. If we’re lucky, we have something they need too, and a bonding can occur. As the heart chakra is the center of balance, it is fitting that love itself arises, initially, out of a natural tendency to merge and balance our energy with others.

So what do the chakras have to do with sex?

During sex our chakras can be activated and, depending on the level of intimacy between the couple and their level of awareness, create a flow of energy between them that is both bonding and rejuvenating.

As well, when a couple has sex there is the potential for their chakras to connect and create a current or flow of energy between them. However, this can only occur when both partners have worked to open their own chakras and there is a high level of connection and trust between them. Usually only some of the chakras will be open so that the sex has the quality or feel of the highest chakra the couple has activated. As they grow together the sex will evolve.

At the level of the heart chakra, the couple opens up to one another in trust and are able to express their vulnerability. This leads to a very great increase in the flow of energy between them. This is where they begin to experience love and bonding through sex.

Of course sex at any of the chakra levels can be an amazing experience. But where a couple consciously opens the energy pathways through meditation, trust, communication and self-inquiry, sex can be much more than just pleasure and procreation. Instead it can become a powerful tool for personal wellbeing and

by Tracey Keyser