oh!!! wo-(man-ia)
edition 5 july‘2014
I don't want a girl child.....
Ever since I was young, I was a feminist, a rebel....
I rebelled against statements and accepted norms, beliefs and
the patriarchal society.
I won’t let people decide her clothes or career or friends. I
won’t exhibit her to boys and their families so that she is
selected or rejected like a piece of merchandise. I condemn
these humiliating practises.
I never understood that why my mom and grand mom used to
'itna messy kamra, koi bolega hi nahi ki
ladkiyo ka kamra hai'
To guys people say, 'kya ladkiyo ke jaise kitchen me
khada hai'
say
But after out previous edition, a friend
came out of the closet and shared her
childhood fear, the ghost of her past that
haunted her till
date. She was abused
Why this discrimination?
Why since birth you instill such
thoughts in the minds of
innocent kids?
Why do you want boys to think
in a certain derogatory way
about girls?
Why do girls have to go
through constant hammering
of how she should be and not
be free like a boy?
as a child, by her
relative for 6 long
years. We all can
feel bad and
agitated hearing
this. But hearing this
and so many things
on daily basis now
These very thoughts devastate
their mindsets from a very
tender age.
From there the
discrimination starts.
makes me think, do
I really want a girl?
Will I be able to save her
from the numerous demons
that live around us, perhaps
with us? She will be a rebel,
she will have her life, but
what if her childhood is
smeared with such horrible
acts...
can I let her out alone?
Witnessing few of these
made me aware of how
society works and thinks.
People will always blame
the girl, for a break up,
So many things my little girl
would face since the time
she is born.
for a divorce, for domestic
violence. Let alone that, they even blame her for
Being a girl here, is being like an object open to society, to
ridicule, play, use, criticize, judge, vandalise, threaten, abuse,
point finger at. So much!
rapes. A girl’s clothes, makeup, independence,
friendship with guys, partying or any damn thing is
Being a girl is not easy.
apparently a trigger for attracting guys. Why these
injustices round the globe?
Salute to all the girls, the ladies, the women, who
have managed to stay strong in a society full of
beasts and hypocrites. You need not be shy, hold
your head high.
I always thought I won’t let my girl go through the
microscope of the society, this bloody hypocritical bunch of
people won’t dictate her life and happiness. My mom says
these are just too idealistic thoughts and when you will reach
that stage you will also act like we do, that’s according to the
society. Will I? No, I won’t. I am sure.
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