OH! Magazine - Australian Version May 2016 | Page 19

(Performance Coaching)

FOUR THINGS YOU
PROBABLY DON’T WANT TO HEAR

GREG
SELLAR

Greg Sellar talks about what you may prefer NOT to talk about.
ll of us should get to a point in life
when we can sit back, take it for
what it is and just accept things as they
are. Acceptance doesn’t mean ‘give in’,
and it’s not an excuse to be satisfied with
mediocre, but it is an allowance to be
okay with where you’re at right now. It
concerns me that some people are unable
to get to that point of ‘okay-ness’. Four of
the most valuable lessons I’ve learned
have changed how I view the world and
how the world treats me, so I thought I’d
share them with you.

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#2. It’s not what you know – EQ trumps IQ
Every major work opportunity I’ve had
over the past 23 years has been the result
of knowing the right people and having
great relationships with them. I’ve leapfrogged and out-performed others who
know way more than I do, but it’s always
the relationship, integrity and work ethic
that people appreciate most.
Lesson 2: Foster your networks, develop
meaningful win/win relationships, and be
aware how you sound in mixed company.
#3. Fear is helpful

Lesson 1: Be on point, be succinct and
stop trying so hard to convince people
you’re right and they don’t know – it looks
desperate.

Lesson 3: Look for the positive intention
behind the negative emotion of fear for
you. When it strikes, appreciate it,
embrace it, and use it to your advantage.
#4. Comparison will be the death of you

#1. Nobody cares and nobody is listening
We’re bombarded with so much
information from those relentless online
newsfeeds but the truth is, so many
people these days are so self-absorbed
with what they’re doing, that they
couldn’t care less about what you’re
saying or sharing. Once you can accept
this fact, things become a little lighter in
terms of your expression and whether or
not you get anxious about how you’re
perceived by others – I should know; I
spent way too many years searching for
praise and approval so can speak from
experience! Now I jus Ё