OH! Magazine - Australian Version May 2016 - Page 18

( Emotional Fitness ) THE PROBLEM WITH JUDGING Emotional fitness expert Heidi Di Santo explains the pitfalls of being judgemental. udging seems like a pretty harmless thing to do. Everybody does it to some extent. So what’s the problem with categorising and interpreting life through filters such as ‘good’ and ‘bad’, ‘right’ and wrong’, and ‘black’ or ‘white’? There is no ‘right’ way to live or view life. There are many ways to interpret every situation and being able to accept this helps you to lead a more peaceful life. I always find the diagram below useful when I think about perception. In my experience, judgment creates three problems: 2. Judging gives away your power and turns you into a victim 1. It robs you of your peace and creates stress. 2. It gives away your power and turns you into a victim. 3. It tells other people that you’re not trustworthy. Judging actually says more about you than it does the person or thing you are judging. Often, whenever you judge someone or something, you’re actuall