OH! Magazine - Australian Version May 2015 - Page 15

BUTT OUT HEIDI DI SANTO WITHOUT WEIGHT GAIN www.heidi.com.au ( Emotional Fitness ) Heidi Di Santo shares her tips to help you butt out, without gaining weight! Back in 2011, I worked with Alex Perry and Nicabate as part of the Pledge to Quit Campaign where we set an Australian record number of people to pledge to quit smoking on World No Tobacco Day. When it comes to butting out, there are three things to consider. Before I share these things, I’d like to point out that this article will concentrate on the third point (becoming emotionally fit) because it is at the heart of why people fail to quit long term and also gain weight when they quit smoking. There’s also a lot of information to help you in relation to the first two points and I’d like to focus on what you can’t find elsewhere. The three things you need to manage on your quit journey are: 1. Breaking your smoking habits. Many people smoke when they have a coffee, drink alcohol or get stressed. Knowing your smoking triggers and being prepared with alternatives is essential for you to successfully quit. 2. Weaning yourself off your addiction to nicotine. There are many products such as gums, patches and lozenges that can help you with this or you can go cold turkey! 3. Becoming emotionally fit. Being emotionally ready to quit and addressing the underlying emotions that caused you to smoke initially and that trigger you to smoke presently is essential to long term success. because they swap one addiction for another (i.e., cigarettes for food) without addressing the underlying emotional cause that drives them to smoke. If you want to be addiction free, it is essential that you address the underlying emotional cause that drives your smoking habit. Expanding on point three, here’s what you need to know about becoming emotionally fit to quit: • • Do you really want to quit? The decision to quit smoking needs to come from you. It has to be something you want to do and not something that someone has forced you to do, otherwise the likelihood of you quitting successfully is low. You need to address the emotional cause. At the root of virtually every addiction are parts in conflict and parts in trauma. When you decide to quit smoking, part of you will want to quit and part of you will want to continue to smoke. These two parts are in conflict. The aim of emotional healing is to get all of your parts aligned towards common goals. Often at the root of one or both of these conflicted parts are traumatised parts, which are those segments within you that have experienced something in the past and are stuck holding on to unprocessed emotions. When you get help for these parts, you become free and quitting smoking becomes much easier. Resource therapists and ego state therapists specialise in helping heal these conflicted and traumatised parts. Many people avoid quitting smoking because they’re afraid they will gain weight. Whilst it is true for some, the only reason they do is • You need to learn to be kind and gentle with yourself. Many people avoid quitting because they think they might fail. The truth is, most people have several attempts at quitting before they are successful. The most important thing is to take the pressure off yourself by being kind and gentle. If you do have a cigarette, it doesn’t mean that you have failed in your attempt to quit, or that you are a failure. Become aware of your self talk. Rather than berating yourself for smoking, focus on how many cigarettes you have avoided smoking, congratulate yourself and continue on your path to quit. Another way to take the pressure off is to cut down slowly rather than quitting all at once. Remember, every cigarette that you don’t smoke is doing you good! ` https://youtu.be/e3mPGCfdDRI ( OH! MAGAZINE ) MAY 2015 15