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Tip 3. Don’t share your feelings Tip 4. Don’t try to control your partner
This one gets most women every time. So
many of them believe they should be
looking for someone they can share their
feelings with. The problem is that too
often this is used as an excuse to dump all
the negativity of the day onto your partner. Do you like to be controlled? Why would
you assume your partner would like it any
more than you do?
As an male employer of mine once said,
“When I’m up to my waist in the swamp, I
don’t want to hear about your alligators.”
Why not share the funny, the weird, the
bizarre things that happen in your day, so
you can laugh about them. Wouldn’t that
create more lightness and fun in your
relationship?
If the relationship in question is with a
girlfriend, then sharing feelings might be
appropriate if you’re both interested. (It’s
a trait women are neurologically wired for,
but not all women are interested.)
Tip 5. Don’t blame your partner
It’s tempting to find someone, anyone, to
blame for things that go wrong in our lives.
Bottom line is: you created it all. Dumping
the blame on the nearest person, your
partner, may momentarily make you feel
better—but is it kind or true? Will it really
create the good feelings you’re looking for
in your partner?
Tip 6. Don’t give up yourself
How much of yourself do you have to give
up for your relationship to work? Can that
possibly be sustainable?
If you stop being you, where does the
person your partner fell in love with or
became friends with go?
Following these 6 Dos and 6 Don’ts can
get you a long way towards creating
relationships that work for you—where you
can have and share your unique voice and
contribution to the world!
Dr Kacie Crisp is a Right Voice for You
Facilitator, a world-wide program that is
part of Access Consciousness which
presents tools that can allow you to have
your voice heard and appreciated in
relationships of all kinds. She is also the
author of the Little Black Book on
Relationships about her 30-year
relationship with her husband, David
Caddy. She and David have presented
classes on relationships all over the world.
Learn more at www.rightvoiceforyou.com
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