OH! Magazine - Australian Version July 2016 | Page 20
( Emotional Fitness )
MAKING CHANGE
MADE EASY
Emotional fitness expert Heidi Di Santo explains
how to successfully create change in your life.
hen it comes to change, many
people feel scared, frustrated or
simply that it’s just ‘too hard’ to make a
change. This is because it’s human nature
to want things to stay the same. Life is
synonymous with change however, and you
can create a lot of stress and pain inside if
you fight against the natural current of life.
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So how can you make accepting change a
little easier on yourself?
Step 1. Change your focus
If you’re finding it hard to create or accept
change in your life, then you’re probably
stuck in the trap of focusing on what you
can’t have or what you’re going to miss out
on. The minute you tell yourself that you
can’t have something, you immediately
want it. This is because you feel ‘deprived’
and this is how you make ‘making change’
difficult for yourself because it doesn’t feel
nice.
Change becomes so much easier when you
enjoy the process. Most people love to eat,
drink and enjoy life, and this is often a byproduct of socialising, which is why gaining
body fat seems so easy to do – you do it
without it being a chore.
So what are you trying to change in your life
and how are you going about doing it? The
more you can make the process fun and
enjoyable, the more likely you are to be
successful at making ‘easy changes’ that
you’ll stick to.
Here are a few ideas:
The thing is, you have 100 per cent control
over where you focus your mind, whenever
you are faced with change. You have a
choice: you can focus on what you ‘can’t
have’, which will create pain and stress and
will ensure that making change is hard; or
you can focus on what you ‘can have’ so
that the change becomes more pleasant
and enjoyable.
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When it comes to exercise, find things
you enjoy doing. My husband and I get
up first thing in the morning, take the
dog for a walk and get a coffee at the
end. The exercise of walking is really a
by-product of connecting with each
other and ensuring our dog gets
outdoors. When you find an activity
that you enjoy doing, you’re more likely
to keep doing it.
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When it comes to work and completing
a big task by a set date, write a list of
all the things you need to do, and at
the start of each day ask yourself ‘what
do I want to work on today?’ When you
Step 2. Make it enjoyable
I stumbled upon a quote the other day that
made me laugh – but it also got me thinking.
It said ‘I wish everything was as easy as
getting fat.’ I initially laughed because
there’s such truth to these words. Gaining
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focus your energy on what you want to
do, as opposed to what you have to do,
you’ll become inspired to do more
because you won’t feel like it’s a chore.
body fat does seem to be an easy thing to
do, but why is gaining weight so easy and
how can we apply these principles to life so
that making change also becomes easy?
Making change is not rocket science. It
involves harnessing your thoughts, feelings
and actions towards the same goal until you
get the results you desire.
HEIDI
DI SANTO
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When it comes to change in general,
telling yourself that you’re lazy, stupid
or weak will make change hard. Beating
yourself up makes you feel lousy and is
demotivating. Instead, the kinder,
more loving and gentle you can be with
yourself, the more likely you are to
stick at something.
If you’ve tried the above and you find you’re
still self-sabotaging or lacking in motivation,
then don’t be scared to reach out for help.
I’ve personally found Resource Therapy and
Breathwork Therapy amazing tools to get
my inner world back on track and in
harmony again, and as such, they are the
therapies I use to help people live their best
life.
To find out more visit www.heidi.com.au or
to watch the YouTube video on this subject
visit
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Te_2Hwm1KKc