OH! Magazine - Australian Version July 2015 - Page 11

HEIDI DI SANTO HOW TO STOP FEELING www.heidi.com.au ( Emotional Fitness ) SAD OR DEPRESSED Heidi Di Santo shares her tips to stop feeling down and out. n this article, you’ll find three tips to help you to stop feeling sad, down or depressed. I know they can work because I’ve been there, and I learned the hard way what works and what doesn’t when it comes to emotional health. I’ve also worked as a therapist for many years and have helped lots of people to move out of their dark hole and into the light. So here are three small tips that can make a big difference to your emotional wellbeing: I 1. Stop judging your emotions and start accepting them When it comes to emotions, there is a tendency to judge them as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. You might say ‘I shouldn’t be feeling like this’ but this non-acceptance of ‘what is’ will create stress and unease within. When you do this, you’re forced to wear a mask and pretend that everything’s okay when in fact, deep down inside, it’s not. There’s nothing wrong with sadness; it’s just sadness. And when you allow it to be there without judging it, it can actually lose its power over you. 2. Start feeling your emotions Your true nature is peace, love and joy. Most people, however, are unable to access these emotional states because all their unfelt emotions get trapped within their body – which doesn’t feel good, by the way! The irony is that you need to feel your emotions in order to get rid of them. There’s an epidemic of ‘not feeling’ in today’s society. Think of the way children are educated about emotions. When a child feels sad, the adults around say ‘cheer up’. If a child feels angry, the adults say ‘calm down’, or if a child is too excited, they say ‘settle down’. Children learn to not trust their internal world and shut off from their emotions. Because of this, most people have lost touch with their internal emotional GPS system! Most people aren’t even aware that they don’t feel properly because it has become such an ingrained pattern. But, if you find it hard to relax, are addicted to anything, feel depressed or anxious, or if you have major ups and downs, you can virtually be guaranteed that you are in a pattern of non-feeling. reclaiming the parts that have been traumatised. By the way, trauma doesn’t have to be a real H