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Positions
Different positions will be more comfortable for different couples, depending on the angle
of the erection and the curvature of the penis. Any position where your knees are bent and
drawn into your chest, whether you are kneeling, lying on your back or on your side, will prob-
ably lead to a more comfortable fuck, or will be a good position to start from. This position will
straighten out the anal canal and the pubo-rectal sling will draw back to allow smoother entry
to the arse.
Relax
If you are relaxed, then you will find it easier and more comfortable to get fucked (yes, this is
what Frankie Goes to Hollywood were singing about). Deep breathing can help you to relax
and allows the arse to relax too. Take your time and make sure you feel comfortable, physical-
ly and emotionally. If you’re feeling tense or pressured, it’s going to be harder for you to enjoy
yourself. If you’re struggling to accommodate his cock, try clenching your sphincter muscles
around it, and then letting them relax.
Lube
Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant if you’re using latex condoms. Avoid using any
lube with nonoxynol-9 in it, as it irritates the lining of the arse and may make sex more painful,
as well as making transmission of HIV easier [2]. There is more information on which lubes to
use in the HIV and AIDS section of this site.
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