Oasis Magazine - Cairns & Tropical North Queensland Issue 29 - Apr | May 2019 | Page 5

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It’s the and Being is a parent is hard. It’s I the think … your would and stop think and … would and I get shouldn’t get involved.” shouldn’t involved.” But stop But hardest thing I’ve ever my done hardest thing done I’ve in ever in are my media proud you right n proud of be you right of now? there are media campaigns across be parents there campaigns across parents life, and I readily admit I don’t have I don’t life, and I readily admit have the world right now encouraging us the world right now encouraging us need other to allow other people to peop a clue what I’m what doing. I’m I’m doing. just to I’m get a clue just involved to get and involved and out to We call need out to We allow to call winging it - winging their their opinions, their reli have their opinions, religion, it! Most as are most of of us! us are! anti-social anti-social behaviour. behaviour. 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As I am an adult, We’re all just our lives living our living lives the I’m not it accepting anymore, and all I just I’m not of accepting anymore, it and I We’re rumours the exact the amount rumours exact of amount best way we in can, in the s can, and the and same will just no longer just walk by. best way we no longer walk by. attention they deserved. Namely: will attention they deserved. Namely: that we chastise wouldn’t cha way that way we wouldn’t sweet FA! sweet FA! someone backing away from backing for away from the The levels current of someone uninvited for The current of levels uninvited Gravitron (aka the Vomitron), the Vomitron), don’t other Gravitron people’s (aka into other into people’s But my bully seemed adamant to adamant be interference But my bully seemed to be interference chastise them the are way the chastise them for the way for they lives kids is not lives okay. is not okay. in my life. in They kids their my enrolled life. They their enrolled causing angst endless angst living for their the living It’s causing It’s endless for the their life. We’re all just t life. We’re all just trying at our daycare and daycare then our school. at our and then our school. person on the end, receiving which person on the receiving which end, get to the kids to without bedtime wit to get the to kids bedtime They even They enrolled the same even in enrolled in the same in turn leads to health mental health in turn leads to mental some sort of major catastroph some sort of major catastrophe. after-school activities. activities. It was It was after-school and consequences the dire consequences issues and issues the dire pathetic, but I actually a bit felt a bit pathetic, but I felt actually So to and my to bully, and bullies to all the bu So to my bully, all the associated associated with that. with that. sorry for my bully. the few sorry for From my bully. 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So created. if I’m feeling angst peering over the peering the fence into fence your into those playing at home, is NOT this those playing this at home, NOT by I nastiness, I fear for how people neighbour's by is nastiness, fear for how people yard. neighbour's yard. the way to make friends!) the way to make friends!) who aren’t who so self-assured are so aren’t self-assured are The best types of in The best types of people in people this similar treatment. coping with coping similar with treatment. However, However, my bully my ramped bully our ramped our have time to badm world don't world have don't time to badmouth relationship relationship to the next level next to the level of attack personal This level level This of personal is attack are too busy impro others; is they others; are too they busy improving recently and recently and Now, and involved my involved kids. my kids. bullying, and it’s NOT okay! their own their bullying, it’s NOT okay! and of the live lives own and lives the lives if ever you’ve seen neck a frilled neck If ever you’ve seen a frilled those around and they k those around them, and them, they know before with you the reply with the “don’t And before you reply “don’t full fight mode, have And lizard in full lizard fight in mode, you’d have you’d the value of their words. the value of their words. Let's all Let rebuttal, please a snowflake” rebuttal, please kind as of a to clue to how I be a snowflake” some kind some of a clue how as I be try kind to be of that kind of person! try to be that person! know that always I’m also always also open to open to went full lizard-neck. I I’m reacted. I reacted. went full I lizard-neck. I know that Criticism, Criticism, especially especially Laters haters!! #DBAD Laters haters!! #DBAD may have hissed, I although I don’t feedback. may have hissed, although don’t feedback. when it’s not is positive, when it’s not positive, a really is a really think I spat. think I spat. part personal of our personal important important part of our to be and like Let Elsa and Let Go, and professional I tried to be I tried like Elsa It Go, development. But and It professional development. But my 11-year-old did shouldn’t but then but my then 11-year-old did criticism criticism be shouldn’t nasty. be It’s nasty. It’s brave - than braver something something brave - braver STEER time we stopped being to so JULES mean to time than we stopped being so mean most adults She would. saw other, a each most adults would. saw She a each other, gaddammit! Publisher | Oasis Magazine gaddammit! woman being verbally by a woman being verbally abused by abused a E: [email protected] People forget the impact their often forget often the impact their man, and she out on it. man, and she called him called out on him it. People P: 0423 words have. Whereabouts in the 959 648 words have. Whereabouts in the walked up to him and She walked She straight up straight to him and Jules xx Jules xx 5