ENOUGH
BY WHITNEY J.
H
ow do you know when enough-- is enough?
Many times in relationships, you get the feeling that
this may not be the one for you. Instead of bowing
out gracefully, you make up every excuse as to why
you should not leave. You ask yourself things like,
“what’s wrong with me?”, “Am I too picky?”, “Will
he/she change?”, And “Can I change them?” The
thing is, all of these things are just a part of the fear
inside to actually get with and be with whom you
actually deserve . Yes, you are correct, there are quirks
with all people that some may not be able to handle.
However, if you are aware that it’s something that
absolutely bothers you then why settle for it? When
you meet that person who is just right for you, the
thing that seems to be a quirk to some will not appear
that way to you.
Why settle? When people describe love, we first
reference what we’re programmed to understand
at a young age from fairy tales. At a young age I
watched Cinderella. I grew to understand that when
the Princess kissed her Prince, there were stars and a
magical up-beat song that played to let me know that
this was it! This was the love story that the fairy tale
was leading up to.
Now reflect on the times that relationships did not
work out. The times when you settled just to coexist,
times when you knew in your heart that this wasn’t
it. The butterfly feeling may have reached you in the
beginning, but after the awe of the newness wore off,
you were just comfortable. If love is supposed to lead
to happily ever after, how do you expect to get there
by settling?
For me, it seems that when I take off the “Rose
Colored” glasses, I am then able to see what everyone
else around me has known for much longer than
me. I was once involved in a relationship where
there were so many warning signs but I had tunnel
vision on the potential. I wanted so badly for the
relationship to work that I focused on the good in the
person and ignored all of the bad. Then, life hit me
hard and it was as if my “Rose Colored” glasses fell
off my face and I finally saw the person for who they
were and not who they potentially could become.
Needless to say--that relationship is no longer in
existence. I truly believe that when people show you
who they are you have to believe them!
As quoted from the poem “Invictus” written by
William Ernest Henley, “I am the Master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul”. This poem can be
interpreted for many different reasons, but when it
comes to this love thing it seems that it makes sense
for you to take the lead over your own happiness.
Stop settling for being comfortable and push through
to lead yourself into your happily ever after.
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NURA Magazine 29