Nu Vibez and Roleplay Guide Magazine - August 2014 | Page 97

Sad Mourning, Vale Robin- p4

This aloneness does not refer to being
physically by oneself. It refers to not
being 'seen' and 'acknowledged' for the
true person that one is. So there is a
vortex that ends badly. The depressed
person feels alone, 'unseen', and may
i nte r p re t t h i s a s a f u n d a m e nta l
indica on of a lack of a significant place
for them in the lives of the ones they
love. It is easy to then feel that hanging
around is a burden upon others. This
leads to believing that loved ones and
friends, who don't 'see' the depressed
person anyway, will be be er off without
having to have their vision blurred by
their presence. Suicide is as much about
ending ongoing burdens, irrita on or
troubles of others, as it is about ending
personal pain.
If there is a lesson in this, it is for us to
challenge the prevailing view that suicide

is selfish. It is not. Then we each need to
examine the extent to which we assume
the façade of other people is their true
selves. O en the ones that give the most,
and are the most keen to see us smile, are
the ones who are depleted inside and
only feel 'seen' when they s r our happy
energies. How much do we reach out to
others on a daily basis in a genuine way.
Do we even greet people and make eye
contact we come across every day, or do
we move past them as though they are
invisible.
Be aware that the “hello, how are you
doing today? “ might be the only
interac on that person gets from anyone
that day, or perhaps that week. What a
small cost is it to us to bother to 'see'
those around us, whatever their creed,
colour, or circumstance?

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