Nu Vibez and Roleplay Guide Magazine - August 2014 | Page 85

ON THE COUCH - p2

even harder and faster, then I cum, ohhh”, then
you will bore your partners to death very
quickly.
Read some ero c literature to build your
vocabulary and word play. Realise that foreplay
is just as relevant in SL as in RL. But if you stuff it
up a few mes, don't fret, prac ce makes
perfect and dare to ask for construc ve
feedback.

ShyLilGirl asks how she
can make friends in SL.
“I'm having trouble making friends in SL
and was wondering if anyone could get
in touch so that we can chat and become
friends. I'm normally shy in RL and it's
hard for me to take the ini a ve with
strangers.”
Dear SLG, what a great issue. Lots of people
first joining SL find it overwhelmingly strange in
so many ways. There is so much to learn too.
Mastering all the technical aspects just so they
stop draining our brains so much is something
to spend me on. It is well worth it. There are
lots of 'newbie' or 'noob' helpers in SL, just use
the browser search to find them. But special
aspect of SL, similar to all online environments,
is that you can become the person you would
like to be, but find it difficult to be in RL. So
rather than just assume that because you are
shy in RL, you must also be the same in SL,
change your thinking and try using SL to
prac ce those behaviours you find it really
tough to do in RL. This might well start to rub off
back into your RL world as you find these new
behaviours are not so scary as you might have
thought they were.

Try saying something cheerful and appropriate
in local chat when in a store, like “Hi, do you
know where the group joiner is?” or “Hello, I
really like the shoes your avatar has, could I ask
where you got them?” And don't forget to look
at other avatar's profiles before you say
anything to them that is too specific, you can
avoid some obvious blunders that way.
Once you have broken the ice with the first
“hello” you also need to know how to keep a
conversa on going. That tends to dis nguish
the socially successful from the ones that
basically never get past “Hi.” Try con nuing
with, “Thanks for that. This shop is new to me,
do you know if it have lots of good quality
gi s?” or “Oh thanks for that store name,
would you happen to have their Landmark
handy too please?”
Going on hunts in SL is also a good way to make
friends as you chat to others about where store
gi s are hidden. Also try cha ng in open chat
at music events, and occasionally try an instant
message (IM) to an avatar you want to send a
special message to, such as “Oh I just wanted to
say I think you have done such a great job on
your avatar, it looks terrific.” Or “Gosh your AO
is so cute and sexy, can you tell me what brand
it is?”
Also make sure your own profile is invi ng and
friendly and shows you are a fairly confident
person who appears to be someone who would
be nice to get to know. Get help at the noob
centres if you are not sure how to do that, or
need help with a profile picture. Before long
Miss SLG you will be Miss SeriouslyLovelyGal.

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