MORE RELAXED
Becoming more relaxed and enjoying your life is up to you . I know I ’ m not telling you any news here and I know it isn ’ t easy to master becoming a chillaxed person but it ’ s also not impossible .
When I was a teenager most people around me used to say that I ’ m a very quiet person . They didn ' t say I ’ m observing things first . They didn ’ t think I ’ m just cool . They kept saying that I was shy , quiet and insecure . Well , they were right because I was more insecure and less experienced than now . But here we are , more than a decade later and I feel very flattered when friends , family , colleagues , and even recruiters on the phone comment that I seem to be a laid back person . Thank you , yes . So , why is that ? How can I be “ chillaxed " although I ’ ve been risking a lot recently ? Again , that comes with experience . I ’ m not 20 any more . I ’ ve figured out some things .
I ’ ve been working on my professional career path mostly with pushing myself into challenging situations . I gave up my financially secure status quo and chose trying something new over the stable lifestyle . Then I was thinking why the hell am doing this to me and once I was in the middle of the challenge 5
I didn ' t quit until I got to the point where I benefited from the hard work . I admit that I also looked a lot at others and wanted to proof to them I can be successful until I ’ ve realised that this is not really me . I wanted to find my own way of success . The main thing that has changed is my thinking and my thinking starts with : Do I have to proof myself to someone ? There are a few people , of course . But the one person that I want to impress all the time and to whom I want to proof that I ’ m capable of achieving this and that , yes , that person is actually me . I pressured myself a lot but I ’ ve found out that I have all the power to handle that pressure and change it .
Lucky me , my family is awesome because they educated me to be extremely independent from them . They also let me live my way . They ’ ve never really judged me or pushed me to follow their example . Quite the opposite . They know I will make it . They know they can rely on me that I take care of myself . They taught me that I ’ m responsible for every single step I ’ m taking ( however , they didn ’ t necessarily showed me how to take that responsibility ). I didn ' t like it when I was a teenager because I felt the heaviness on my shoulders and sometimes I thought I might crack under that pressure . But I ’ ve learned early on how to deal with it . This summer , I took another risky decision and instead of being terrified and calling me naive , my family ensured that they completely understand and they trusted me to do the right thing . And just in case something goes really wrong they would be there for me , trying to help out wherever they can . That ’ s when I ’ ve realised where an important part of my relaxedness comes from .
I ’ ve changed not only jobs , I ’ ve changed friends , cities , opinions and countries . I haven ’ t had a shocking culture shock yet ( besides the month before Brexit ) but I definitely had my little culture shocks here in Europe . And they taught me to calm down as well . Forget about the perfectionist in you , I told myself . When moving to London and Madrid / Marbella I really had to stop complaining about chaotically organised colleagues , about the missing double glazing of windows , about weird heating systems in winter , about missing reliability and honesty , safety , cleanness , even about illogic traffic lights , about unpunctuality and so on . I had to stop comparing and start just going with it . Biggest challenge ever , I tell you and a never-ending challenge . But once I mastered my thoughts my days got so much more beautiful . It ’ s true what they say about the thoughts . If