to show any enthusiasm even when we’re all really excited. I can’t imagine living life anywhere else, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve changed direction.
I’ve realised that the culture I thought restricted me has made me the person I’m now proud to be. No one had a blissful childhood and that’s more to do with humanity than culture. Now I’m so fascinated by my Nigerian heritage that every moment is a trigger to ‘back home’, a reference to the cuisine, or a joke in my language only the initiated understand. It feels like I’m finally making up for lost time; exploring the parts of me that I hid because I wanted to be like everyone else. But nothing is worth experiencing unless you can share it. And I do, but sometimes I worry that I become so militant in my expression that those who don’t have a similar experience will get sick of hearing about it. Even worse, I’m scared that they’ll misunderstand my excitement for opposition.
Making the two intersect is hard. Some days I feel completely British and other days I could swear I’ve lived in Nigeria my whole life. Having a space to share stories, ask questions and jokes about living with these two identities is something I had only previously found with cousins and friends with similar backgrounds. As subcultures like Black Twitter have sprung up, there’s this new reality where thousands of us going through the same thing have created a little hybrid nation of our own. Spaces like this remind me that I don’t have to choose between one or the other. I’m British and Nigerian. I’m Grace and Ibidolapo. I’m not one or the other, but all.