NJ Cops March2018 | Page 86

CLOSING ARGUMENTS Mallory’s Army fights back against bullying It’s Memorial Day 2017, and our family is hurrying to have fun in the sunny days ahead in the forecast. It’s a race to see who can get set up the fastest, at our “happy place” in the Catskills of New York for a fun-filled weekend of camping. Little did we know that we were only three weeks away from the un- imaginable. DIANNE AND SETH Mallory Rose Grossman is a healthy, GROSSMAN happy, smart, caring 12-year-old girl living in Rockaway, New Jersey. She spends her free time tum- bling on a trampoline, riding her bike and making homemade crafts to sell at the campground to raise money for Camp Good Days. Her sister Carlee is who she desires to be “just like,” and her archenemy when the doors slam because something is missing from the other’s room. Her parents have been married for 17 years, and they’re small business owners. Just an everyday “normal” family. At least that is what it appeared to be from the outside, and inside as well, if we are being honest. The end of fifth grade is where it began, a target invisible to adults but vivid to the children in her school. A target of hate, exclusion, isolation, humiliation and bullying — this bullseye leads right to her heart. In sixth grade the scarlet letter of hate returns, the target much larger, brighter for the 900-plus kids to see. Like many of you, we — her parents — assume a “kids will be kids” scenario and encourage Mallory to ignore the girls who embarrass her in the halls she’s required to walk. Our hindsight would be very helpful about now, but it will only show itself at the end of the school year, when it’s too late. She endures conflict and isolation, she’s humiliated online in a space called “social media,” which is far from social for Mal- lory. It is an electronic, unsupervised platform for the girls who enjoy watching her panic over what is being said about her. A stage for making themselves feel larger than life, and Mallory small and unimportant. It’s the beginning of the end for Mallo- ry, and for our family. The end comes three weeks after a fun-filled family weekend