NJ Cops March19 | Page 78

A Message about Mental Healthcare The first step in healing is to admit the pain I haven’t picked up the phone. I know I’m on thin ice and that soon, my department will send me for a drug test. I feel enormous guilt about going on shift hung over, but I’m trying to quiet my mind and the relentless scenes running through my head. I wake up sweating and anxious. I know that I have to take a drink just to stop shaking, but I still haven’t picked up the phone. I’m torn between a stream of thoughts: “I can’t lose this job.” “But I can’t stop ANNIE going out with the guys after shift.” “They’ll think WEYMOUTH something is wrong.” These are the answers to the questions asked of our clients. These are the blocks to their freedom and peace of mind. Yet suicide rates remain high, and we all know that an officer is more likely to die by his or her own gun than in the line of duty. How are we failing? We’re not teaching resiliency skills and men- tal toughness to new recruits or, veteran officers. We’re not realizing that through some simple skills and intervention, we could prevent a world of pain — because first we would have to admit that there is pain. What if there was a way to heal mind, body and spirit? What if there was a way to heal the brain? What if it was possible to reduce PTSD symptoms to the extent that nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety and depression could be resolved? Isn’t that what is needed? Please pick up the phone, especially if you recognize any of the signs of alcoholism, depression and anxiety: 78 NEW JERSEY COPS ■ MARCH 2019 • Disheveled — uniform not up to standard, looks as though he or she did not sleep. • Poor grooming — lack of interest in personal appearance and self-care. • Absenteeism — skipping shifts, calling out, leaving early. • Isolation — officer starts to keep a distance from people with whom he or she normally spends time, both at work and home. • Loss of enthusiasm — used to love the job; now, it is difficult and wearing the officer down. • Going through the motions — doing the minimal amount of work required and not emotionally invested in the job like he or she used to be. Check up on each other; don’t be afraid to ask the difficult ques- tions. If someone on your crew was pinned under a building, would you help him or her? Would you go into the building and save his or her life? Well, that’s exactly what isn’t happening. We’re standing by, watching as our brothers and sisters die. Create accountability within your department, pay attention to each other and notice when someone is not himself or herself. Don’t be afraid to speak up! You might save someone’s life. Even heroes need help sometimes. Annie Weymouth, LMHC, CAP, CCJAP, CSAT, is the program director for the First Responder Program at the Florida House Experience and a former first responder.