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SOMETHING CONTINUED FROM PAGE 47 neath, the guy was suffering.” When members of the PBA think of Pablo Santiago, images of wide grins and thumbs up come to mind. They picture the man wearing the green Christmas suit at the PBA holiday party. That im- age doesn’t convey sadness or depression and certainly not some- one who would take his own life. The loss of Santiago is another reason to refocus on the impor- tance of mental wellness as a necessity for all first responders. It might make members take a closer look at those they work with to ask the question: who could be wearing a mask of happiness? It stresses the need for officers to look themselves in the mirror and be honest about any warning signs that start blinking, however faintly, in their own heads. “They need to get comfortable feeling uncomfortable with their situation,” Burkert instructs. “They need to make the decision to save their own life or save the people they love from ending it all.” Pablo’s inspiration Of all the NJ State PBA members and groups that Santiago had relationships with, there was no member who knew the Local 187 president more than Papero. The two Local 187 members were the Holmes and Watson or the Jerry Seinfeld and George Costanza of the PBA. If you saw one at a PBA function, the other was most likely somewhere nearby. Their friendship was so in sync that even Papero’s and Santia- go’s wives were convinced they shared a brain. But keeping up with Santiago and his contributions to the PBA, his family and the community was something that even Papero could hardly wrap his head around. “He was everywhere,” Papero confirms. “The guy was literally at every event he could have possibly been.” Santiago was the kind of guy who never took a day off from serv- ing his community. If he wasn’t working a shift, he was helping pre- Peer Assistance Response Team For assistance with any issues related to mental health, addiction, suicide prevention or critical incidents, contact: • Dr. Eugene Stefanelli Clinical Services Director Hotline: 732- 609-3554 Cell: 973-768-5300 • Mauro Farallo Peer Liaison Committee Chairman Cell: 973-902-7821 • Cherie Castellano Executive Director Cop-2-Cop Hotline: 866-267-2267 Cell: 732-713-8037 • Dr. Michael Bizzarro (On call backup doctor for Dr. Stefanelli.) Cell: 732-771-7165 • Kenneth Burkert Volunteer Peer Liaison Cell: 908-346-1691 • Father John McCrone Clergy for all NJSPBA members Cell: 201-707-2678 pare and distribute food to Trenton’s inner-city families in need. He was a loyal father to his two daughters and a dedicated member of the PBA. “Everybody wanted Pablo to be part of their group because he made their group better,” Papero explained. “Everybody wanted him there.” For Papero, learning how to cope with the loss of his partner in preventing crime, brother and best friend will be like learning how to navigate the world with a piece of himself missing. However CONTINUED ON PAGE 50 www.njcopsmagazine.com ■ JANUARY 2019 49