I met all these people, had become
pregnant myself and I really
got in touch with what it means
to be a woman, a mother, to keep
a baby, what it must have been
like for my birth mother to have
to part with me with no support,
what it was like for my adopted
mother to never have been able
to give birth because she was
infertile; I realized that I carried
grief for all of us because it’s just
sad. Adoption is second choice,
no matter what people say adoption
is second choice; most people
want to have their own biological
children. Adoptees know,
we know we’re second choice;
yes, some people do adopt babies
that have already had children
but it’s more common the
other way. So just having my kids,
looking at them and seeing similarities;
I had never lived with a
blood relative before.”
“I think what comes into play
in my music is the wound of the
grief of adoption and it’s not like
all of my songs are really depressing,”
she said with a chuckle.
Listen to “I’m Legit” by Zara Phillips
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