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reliable, and you probably can’t do this or do that,” continued Richards. “Even if you see them twice a week every week while doing something active, they’re looking at you as a patient. It’s one of those things. I’m hoping, in a way, that people who read this understand that those of us who get these diagnoses know it’s going to get us. But, my gosh, do not forget that we’re he not only wants to do, he feels still vibrant and viable musicians he has to do. When word gets until that day comes. We still out about a musician having can- have plenty to offer.” cer, people change around him. It’s only natural. They generally He adds, “When you get a di- don’t know what to say or how agnosis, suddenly you become to act, but they’re worried about isolated through no fault of your hiring him for gigs they can’t be own. We’ve noticed people sure he will be able to perform. don’t stay in touch as much. Isolation becomes the norm. It’s more, ‘How are you doing? Hope you’re feeling good” in- “I don’t blame people for it, stead of “Hey, how are you do- but the first thing people think if ing? Let’s go get a drink.” It’s you’re being treated for cancer such an isolating diagnosis - is you’re sick, you might not be even though you’re still basically NJ STAGE - ISSUE 44 INDEX NEXT ARTICLE 19