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Evidence of Shame Checklist
The following list is a SAMPLE of some of the fruits that often point to roots of shame in our lives. Frequency
or tendancies may vary from ‘Not at all’ to ‘Painfully so’.
I have a fear of:
- Abandonment and/or rejection
- Being vulnerable
- People really getting to know me
- Giving myself fully to relationship
- Loving and living fully
- Risk
- Making a mistake
- Being out of control

I am uncomfortable with:

- Expressing emotions (especially negative ones)
- Being “real”… expressing who I am; my own particular
- personality, temperament, gifts, etc.

I struggle with:
- Forgiving others (and forgiving myself)
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Intense focus on self rather than on the glory of God within
- Frequent depression
- Compulsive or addictive habits
- Perfectionism
- Isolation or difficulty making close friends
- Feeling chosen and deeply loved, not simply tolerated
- Receiving a gift without feeling the need to repay
- Persistent thoughts of mistakes made in the past
- Repenting; admitting that I am wrong
“Healing Shame” © Sandra Sellmer-Kersten, revised 2013, all rights reserved.
Unauthorized copying or reproduction (except for sample prayers and worksheets) prohibited.
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