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INSPIRATION doctor didn’t realize that your cold was caused by a virus, so he treated it with an antibiotic, a topical skin cream, or an antidepressant. Those treatments would be ineffective because none of them addresses the actual problem—and the same is true for the mistakes people commonly make regarding affection. Sadly, people who continue to feel affection deprived over time tend to cope with that feeling in some unconstructive ways, as we’ll explore. Finally, after trevailing, we reach our destination: an examination of effective strategies for combatting loneliness and meeting your affection needs. If you’re considering this journey at all, you’ve probably felt the frustration of experiencing affection hunger and attempting without success to improve your situation. Many people eventually come to believe their loneliness is a permanent state, when in fact, they simply haven’t learned how to address it successfully. The answers are there, though, if we know where to find them. That’s the purpose of our travels in this book. Welcome aboard—I’m glad to have you along on this trip. 19 | NEW CONSCIOUSNESS REVIEW Kory Floyd is a professor of family and interpersonal communication at Arizona State University. He has studied the communication of affection in close relationships and its connection with health and wellness for more than twenty years. Dr. Floyd’s work has been featured on The Today Show, Huffington Post Live, NPR and BBC radio, and in articles in dozens of magazines and newspapers, including Women’s Health, Redbook, Glamour, Seattle Times, Denver Times, and Cleveland Plain Dealer. He has written multiple textbooks and scholarly books about communication in personal relationships, and he writes the Affectionado blog for Psychology Today. He currently lives in Tucson, Arizona. www.koryfloyd.com