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new church life: september/october 2015 is equally masculine or feminine. It says to me that the Lord’s intention for each of us is to be born and develop as a fully functional man or woman, who has the “capacity for conjunction in every detail” with a person of the opposite sex. Are there interruptions in that process from time to time with some people, as science seems to suggest? I do not know. I do find it helpful, personally, to allow for the possibility that there are things going on for some people that may incline them more toward homosexuality, as it keeps me more open to what others may be experiencing. Finally it is useful to consider eternal trajectories. On the negative side, there is no indication that samesex unions exist in heaven, and there are additional hard-to-hear teachings indicating the sad lot in hell of those for whom same-sex attraction becomes pervasively domineering, self-serving and lustful. (See Apocalypse Explained 1006:2, Spiritual Experiences 2675) The same thing could be said of disorders of a sexual nature in the heterosexual realm. But these teachings should be viewed in the context of what truly defines us, namely what we come to love the most. The Heavenly Doctrines refer to these loves as our ruling or life’s love. (See Heaven and Hell 479; Divine Providence 106) While each person’s ruling love will be unique, all in heaven share the common elements of love of God and love of other people. They have also been willing to be led by the Lord away from what is hurtful and self-serving. I think it important to note, in the context of one’s ruling love, that homosexual attraction by itself need not define a person eternally. While it matters for all of us the level to which we indulge in things that the Lord forbids, we should never underestimate His ability to lead people through their many states of life toward heaven. There is, however, an important component of our preparation for heaven that revolves around marriage. A chapter in Conjugial Love on “Marriages in Heaven” says that its purpose is not only to teach that marriages exist in heaven, but also that they are central to the happiness that the Lord offers to people there. In fact there are many teachings that lead to the conclusion that A chapter in Conjugial Love on “Marriages in Heaven” says that its purpose is not only to teach that marriages exist in heaven, but also that they are central to the happiness that the Lord offers to people there. 466