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MY SECRET TO STAYING POSITIVE Though it requires as much attention as our physical wellbeing, most of us neglect our mental health. Group fitness guru Marietta Mehanni shares four practical actions to maintain a positive outlook, even in tough times. D uring the recent pandemic lockdown, I received an email asking what my secret to positivity was. Through the tough times. how did I stay positive and show up with a smile on Facebook Live every day? I knew instantly what my answer was: I actively look after my mental wellbeing. The email, however, prompted me to consider the various contributing factors and to write them down. Here, I’ll share those with you, in the hope that something that works for me may also be of some help to you. With regards our physical health, we make sure that our bodies get good nutrition and rest and move regularly. In our industry, we also focus on improving specific aspects of fitness such as strength, balance, flexibility, endurance (muscle and cardio) and range of motion. However, it is also about having balance, so that our lives do not become entirely consumed by nutrition or training. The aim is to keep a good sense of perspective. I strongly believe that mental health requires just as much attention and concentrated effort as physical health. The problem is, most people pay very little attention to this aspect of their being. As with physical health, this neglect will catch up with us eventually, especially in a crisis. So, what is my ‘secret’? Here are four things I do to try and keep my mind as healthy and resilient as my body. 1. Meditation Every day I meditate for approximately 20 minutes. I started meditating 12 years ago, and it took some time to get to a point where I could do it for this long, and on a daily basis, but it was worth the perseverance. Lately, I have also added a second meditation in the middle of the day. The immediate effect of meditation is an almost instantly more relaxed mind, as well as the ability to concentrate and focus better. The longer-term effect is that I feel detached. This is something that most people do not understand until they experience it. It doesn’t mean that I don’t have empathy or experience a range of emotions. What it means is that I don’t experience despair, depression or fear, and I enjoy an underlying feeling that everything will be OK. Trust me, I did not used to feel this way, and every day was an emotional roller coaster, which was incredibly draining. Detachment provides the mental space to view the world, and then have a conscious mind that can make a decision separate from what is happening around you. This is called being ‘unconditional’, and means that, even when confronted with pessimism and negative tension, I don’t react, but instead maintain a state of being relaxed and satisfied. I know, deep down, that everything is going to be alright. This long-term effect of meditation is profound. 2. Journaling Every day I journal about what makes me happy and the things that are going well in my life. This is an important muscle in our minds that we often fail to strengthen. I have been doing this for nine years and it has really helped me to maintain perspective when dramas occur. When I have drama, it is often short lived. Focusing on drama brings more drama. 42 | NETWORK WINTER 2020