Naleighna Kai's Literary Cafe Magazine January 2018 New Year, New You | Page 50
Hairstory
Recently, on a national television talk show, a
married couple of nine years were on and the
topic was all about the fact that the husband
was no longer attracted to his wife because she
now wore her natural hair. When he married her,
she wore weaves which eventually damaged her
hair to the point she had to cut it all out. What
was left behind was something that sent him
running out of the door, then trudging back into
the house to say, “If it’s a wig, take it off.”
I posted the video on my page and my FB Friends
had the opportunity to sound off.
Shareta Caldwell-Rippatoe: This is what
happens when you don’t show the person you
are with the real You. Could be hair, make-up, or
how you talk.
Naleighna Kai: so you’re saying it’s okay for him
to now not be attracted to his wife because she
has to wear her natural hair since the weave has
damaged it? He didn’t marry her hair, he married
HER for better or worse. He didn’t warn her that
not wearing weave is a deal breaker the way
some men warn that if a woman goes over a
certain weight he’s leaving her.
Shareta Caldwell-Rippatoe: Whether it is right
or wrong, I didn’t really think about it. He feels
how he feels. I was only referring to how he had
no idea how his wife looked without a weave.
Nine years and she has never shown him her real
hair! He was used to seeing her one way all the
time and without warning, she switched it up.
50 | NKLC Magazine
So when you don’t talk about these things or
don’t show a person who you really are, you get
this very shocked response. He obviously liked
her to look a certain way. While he is saying she
is beautiful, her new look is not something he