to avoid jobs that would allow the court to take
out child support. The one who tried to terminate
his parental rights thinking it would help him
avoid paying child support. Thankfully, the judge
saw through that ploy, was going to grant it but
told him he was still on the hook for child support
all the way into my son’s college years. Well,
that ended that motion.
isn’t about the couples, it is about the fact they
represent the ideal balance between feminine and
masculine energy in a relationship. This is what
some long for, and that also includes the children
that long for that balance as well. Especially
ones who have an overwhelming abundance of
feminine energy around them—being raised by
mothers, aunts, grandmothers—with very little
male input or role models. I didn’t understand
As a young mother, I took my son’s need personal how much that lack of a masculine presence left
for a while. And only later in life did I admit it I a hole in my son’s soul. Thoughts that ran from:
was hurt because my son’s longing for a man who
didn’t want him. Basically, his actions made me I excel in my studies, what’s wrong with me that
wonder: Ain’t I enough?
my father wants nothing to do with me?
When I did some thinking about things, I had to
come to terms with the fact that some women
who spend their entire lives searching for that
missing part of them. They’ll find it in Mr. Wrong,
Mr. Right Now, Mr. Deadbeat, Mr. Sometimes, Mr.
Down Low, Mr. Judgmental, Mr. Heavy-handed or
some other derivation of man who doesn’t quite
pan out. Only a small percentage of women land
with men who are true to their vows; men who
believe in that whole “til death do us part” thing
that society has made so many buy into as the
ideal.
I love witnessing the love between couples who
have that kind of love. Brenda Jackson and her
beloved Gerald Jackson; Deno Thomas (my son’s
Karate instructor) and his wife Liz Thomas, Will
and Jada Smith, Janine and Brenton Ingram.
This is only a few examples because this article
I’m a Karate champion, what’s wrong with me
that my father wants nothing to do with me?
I’m a football champion, what’s wrong with me
that my father wants nothing to do with me?
I’m a baseball champion, what’s wrong with me
that my father wants nothing to do with me?
I’m a good kid, what’s wrong with me that my
father wants nothing to do with me?
He, like I, did not understand that his father’s
lack of involvement was something my son had
taken as meaning maybe there was personally
wrong with him. This thought began to affect
his schooling and other aspects of his behavior.
Maybe it was puberty kicking (which is another
story that I told in the Mother’s Day issue), but
overall I had to take my son’s need for a male role