isn’t all that great to begin with, why would the son
need to follow in those footsteps? All egos aside, we
should want the next generation to be better than
this generation. This is how we as a people grow
and flourish. Every negative word that my boys have
ever heard, (whether from their father or anyone
else), was followed up with positive reinforcement
from me, their mother. My job was to counter the
“you can’t be this,” and instill “you can be whatever
you desire to be”. I have taught them that no one
controls their destiny but them. It is almost as if God
himself has allowed mother’s insight to be aware of
things that will tear boys down.
“You are the master of your
destiny. You can influence,
direct and control your
own environment. You can
make your life what you
want it to be.”
are wanted and desired. No child should ever need
to look outside of their own home to find love and
nurturing that should be freely given by the parents
that birthed them.
Over the years, I have witnessed so many
children—boys and girls alike—looking for love and
validation in all the wrong places. We tend to raise
our daughters with stricter guidelines but let our
sons run free. As if we don’t realize that these boys
become young men, who become fathers that teach
their sons to carry on the same legacy of neglect. So,
I say to parents, “when your raise daughters, also
raise your sons to be young men who become better
fathers that push and coach their sons and daughters
into greatness.”
There truly are some fathers who get it right
every day, all day. I salute each and every one of
you. Yet, there are far more sitting around waiting
on accolades when their kid becomes a famous
sportsman, politician, lawyer, judge, or businessman.
If someone desires to be around for the highs, be
man enough to be around for the lows as well.
So, whether you are a father raising sons or
a mother who has to fill that void where a father
should be, raise your sons. Validate them, love them,
encourage them, and reassure them. Teach them to
The truth is, as women we know what we desire be “more than.”
in men. We see the qualities that it takes to make
a great husband, whom will also become a great
The same positive traits that are poured into
father. This is what we should nurture in our sons. the vessel that is called a son, will be the same
This is what we birth in our boys.
traits that they, in turn, bequeath to their children,
for generations to come. This is the most valuable
We imbue them with love, strength, and validation inheritance they will ever receive.
to be strong men, loving husbands, and protective
fathers. The best gift you can give a child is your
time. By spending time with them you also teach
them that they are valuable, they are loved, they
– Napoleon Hill