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interaction I use scripts and carefully curated responses to maintain this facade . Whether communicating face to face or electronically , the fear of saying the wrong thing uses a lot of energy . The crippling tendency to blame ourselves for any misunderstandings can also result in exploitation and bullying in group environments , such as the workplace .
Emotional dysregulation is another common symptom of ADHD and autism and is also one of the core criteria for adults looking to get diagnosed . Emotional dysregulation , by definition , is an inability to manage or regulate a person ’ s emotional responses . For people with ADHD or people on the autism spectrum who are constantly processing internal and external stimuli , this can be meltdown inducing .
This can look like explosive reactions to what may seem like minor setbacks / challenges . For me , failing a job interview and having the WIFI go down elicit the same level of crushing distress . Neurodivergent people who struggle with RSD tend to create coping mechanisms to combat the uncomfortable feelings of rejection .
Perfectionism , isolation / avoidance , bullying , peoplepleasing , overcompensation , addiction and masking can all be attributed to symptoms of emotional dysregulation .
I have personally gone through all the above because of my rejection sensitivity and emotional dysregulation . I react so strongly to stimuli that it quickly becomes unbearable to be around . The rare times I venture into the public , I wear sunglasses , headphones , a mask and long sleeves to limit the amount of unwanted sensory input and to avoid having to feel my feelings .
Rejection sensitive dysphoria is a debilitating aspect of neurodiversity . People with RSD are usually ashamed of their over-reactions and hide them so that they won ' t be further embarrassed and thought of as mentally or emotionally unstable and therefore shunned from their social circle . Learning about RSD is another important step further in understanding oneself as a neurodivergent individual but also to learn to take better care of the people around us who are dealing with it . Each person will have their own needs . Learning to take them into account can mean a world of difference to someone you know who may deal with this .
Do you know someone who is autistic ?
Here are some things to consider
Don ' t Disregard Sensory Sensitivities
Many people with autism have sensory sensitivities , and certain sounds , lights , textures , or smells can be overwhelming or distressing for them . Be mindful of the environment and try to create a calm and accommodating space .
Don ' t Overwhelm with Information
Be mindful of the amount of information you provide at once , as individuals with autism may find it challenging to process a large volume of information . Offer information in a clear and concise manner .
Avoid Overreacting to Repetitive Behaviors
Repetitive behaviors are common in autism and can serve as coping mechanisms . Avoid drawing undue attention or making a big deal out of these behaviors , as it may cause embarrassment or discomfort .
Don ' t Assume Lack of Interest
People with autism may not always display their emotions or interest in a typical way . Avoid assuming that they are uninterested or indifferent if they don ' t respond in expected ways .
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