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Tali Maron Blogger with a disability
@ rollwithasmileblog
I consider it to be invasive when people ask me about my disability Most people have the privilege of hiding their struggles . Could you imagine a world where every traumatic event a person went through would be visible to others and constantly addressed by strangers in social settings ?
" Oh , I am so sorry you lost your baby ! How did it happen ?"
" It so sad your husband left you !
Are you seeing a therapist ?"
" You can ' t conceive ? Let me pray for you !"
" You have this illness ? You are such an inspiration for not giving up !"
Disability , in many cases , is tied to trauma , loss , painful experience , etc . And even if not , it ' s not the only thing a disabled person is about . I understand that in most cases , there ' s no malicious intent behind the question . Still , it ' s invasive , tactless , and dehumanizing .
First , one needs to consider the fact that such questions might cause the disabled person to talk / remember / relive a traumatic event or experience . Repeatedly . In front of complete strangers .
Second , just because my " struggles " are visible to everyone doesn ' t mean it ' s ok to address them .
And third , it makes the disabled person feel invisible , a medical curiosity . If the first thing addressed is their disability or mobility aid , what about the person ?