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Tali Maron Blogger with a disability
@ rollwithasmileblog
I consider it to be invasive when people ask me about my disability Most people have the privilege of hiding their struggles. Could you imagine a world where every traumatic event a person went through would be visible to others and constantly addressed by strangers in social settings?
" Oh, I am so sorry you lost your baby! How did it happen?"
" It so sad your husband left you!
Are you seeing a therapist?"
" You can ' t conceive? Let me pray for you!"
" You have this illness? You are such an inspiration for not giving up!"
Disability, in many cases, is tied to trauma, loss, painful experience, etc. And even if not, it ' s not the only thing a disabled person is about. I understand that in most cases, there ' s no malicious intent behind the question. Still, it ' s invasive, tactless, and dehumanizing.
First, one needs to consider the fact that such questions might cause the disabled person to talk / remember / relive a traumatic event or experience. Repeatedly. In front of complete strangers.
Second, just because my " struggles " are visible to everyone doesn ' t mean it ' s ok to address them.
And third, it makes the disabled person feel invisible, a medical curiosity. If the first thing addressed is their disability or mobility aid, what about the person?