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Visit Us On Facebook HFFA MSR Annct. 120113.indd 1 h, the holidays. Many people both look forward to them and dread them at the same time – and usually for the same reasons: family meals. Despite all cultural changes since Norman Rockwell’s famous “Freedom from Want” Thanksgiving picture was published in 1943, many people still have that image of the perfect holiday meal in their minds. Trouble is, that image of three generations sitting happily around a perfectly set table is unattainable – and probably was then, too. A poll by the American Psychological Association reported eight out of 10 Americans anticipate stress during the holidays, and 40 percent of female respondents pointed to holiday meals as the primary factor. So, the first step to enjoying holiday meals is for everyone to let go of that perfect image. Face it: Babies are going to get cranky. Toddlers are going to spill things. Tweens and teens are going to give an eye roll at least once during the meal. However, accepting imperfection does not mean not having an enjoyable time around the holiday table. Here are four ideas to help parents or guardians not only survive those meals, but also help an extended family thrive. 1 | Talk with kids about what is expected of them. If home table rules are lax, parents can’t expect kids to be able to follow a different set of rules at holiday time without some prepping. Let’s say the kids are used to getting up from the table when they are finished, but Grandma has a stay-seated rule. Parents should discuss the difference and explain 11/14/13 1:45 PM how kids can be respectful of Grandma’s rules. Maybe a mom or dad could ask Grandma if the kids could color at the table when they are done or if the kids could get their wiggles out by helping to clear away dirty dishes. Instead of bombarding kids with a bunch of don’ts, parents should also go over some basic do’s when it comes to table manners. These four can serve the whole family well in many situations: • Yes, please: “Would you like to have some green bean casserole, Jamie?” “Yes, please, Grandma.” • No, thank you: “How about some more stuffing, young lady? “No, thank you, Uncle Ben, but it was very good.” • Excuse me: “Excuse me, Grandpa, I didn’t mean to spill my soup. I will clean that up.” MEN’S SCHEDULE: SUNDAY, DEC. 1 VS. UNC ASHEVILLE - 6PM WEDNESDAY, DEC. 4 VS. DAVIDSON - 7PM SATURDAY, DEC. 21 VS. USC UPSTATE - 7PM SUNDAY, DEC. 29 VS. GEORGIA TECH - 7PM SATURDAY, JAN. 4 VS. NC A&T - 7PM WOMEN’S SCHEDULE: SUNDAY, DEC. 8 VS. SOUTH CAROLINA - 7PM SUNDAY, DEC. 29 VS. FURMAN - 4PM FRIDAY, JAN. 3 VS. UNC WILMINGTON - 12PM *EDUCATION DAY* ALL GAMES PLAYED IN HAL TON ARENA | CHARLOTTE49ERS.COM | 704.687 .4949 20 – My School Rocks! | December 2013 www.myschoolrocks.com | My School Rocks! 21