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ences that they have gone through, so if you help clients to overcome past challenges they predominantly produce more level of empowerment and success in the present and future both… What can one expect after a coaching session? It’s a cleansing process to be honest, people see, hear and feel more empow- ered and experience a breakthrough from the things that hold them back. It’s enlightening, people feel more grounded. Its sometimes becomes such an overwhelming experience that clients feel blissful, they experience gratitude, and learn to associate with positive thinking and learning for future endeav- ors Why did you decide to become a trainer/life coach? 200 million people in my country, I was personally a victim of traumas, pho- bias, and the set of depression. When my coach-therapist took me through this process, I felt the power and spark inside me for the first time ever. This is such a humbling profession, for every life that I see transformed. When I see individuals empowered, it’s like I want to connect with God and thank Him for the blessings in my life. Every beautiful moment may it be couple reunit- ed, overcoming obstacles, performance and behavioral transformation has led me to learn a lot about human patterns and the way our mind functions. I would do anything to keep this up, for me that’s as partially curtail like prayers itself. What are some of the challenges you have faced in this field? Societal or cultural stigmas, dogmas that therapy or coaching is for those who are weak, or have mental challenges, or for those who are unwise. That’s not true, it’s actually the successful people who have coaches and therapist working closely with them. Some of the best in history had a coach, thera- pist, mentor working closely with them. The other one was that people hold on to so much and then when they collapse or snap psychologically, then is when they resort to a coach-therapist. Which is like knowing you have cancer, nevertheless just so that people don’t feel awkward around me, I will go to the doctor when it hits its last stage (that’s an insane analogy). On top of it they would say, well we didn’t know. You must know, be receptive to understand- ing that like when you have a fever you visit a doctor, get an opinion, talk to a professional about it. I also have a funny one, it’s strange that most of my clientele is female. Well, men in our society don’t have problems, because they are men after all. It’s just a alpha male thing (This one is totally more like, if couple isn’t having a baby, well lets first take the female to the doctor to see what’s wrong with her). You’ve worked with some truly amazing people including Dua Malik and Anem Tariq, what have you gained from working with them (and your cli- ents in general)? That its ok to fail, NLP, Hypnotherapy and coaching doesn’t mean that now life will all be very gloomy, perfect and you will be smiling 24/7 and that depres- sion won’t touch you! It’s actually the opposite. Life gets harder, problems become more challenging, life actually gets tougher each year, and year in and year out. Therapy is more about equipping yourself to get back up stron- ger and faster. Training your mind not to quit, but to persevere, to raise your standards, to live each and every moment to fullest. What are some of the main teachings in the workshops you host? How to overcome: a) Negative Thinking b) Negative Emotions c) Inner Conflicts d) Limiting Beliefs How important are personal core values, and how does knowing them change one’s behavior? They are actually the most important. Values are the foundation block, it’s from those core values that we de- sign beliefs, and thus represents how we tend to behave. So for sure knowing them does have a very significant change on one’s behavior. This just brought back a memory of a client who was an entrepreneur, but never made much money. So the client was worried and when visited, we found out that in his value system for having a business had everything in it except money, due to which he felt or developed a belief that money is evil, and as a result gave away almost all of it. To our surprise that value system developed back tracked all the way to his past, where his father had too much money, and that’s what created a distance between the father and son. So not only did the client not make money, the client thought money is bad, the saddest part is he didn’t give time to his son too, because he never understood the true spirit of father and son relationship. Do you have any advice for someone who is contem- plating working with a life coach but is unsure of the benefits they’ll get? Its ok to be unsure, and it’s fine to sit down with your life coach to set and define the goal you wish to achieve and how it would benefit you. I always encourage my grad- uating students to have a 30-40 minute complementary first session. And, here is a bonus. If you ever go to a life coach, my first question is always, “how many coaching hours have you received for yourself?” if the answer to this is well I am good with life and I don’t need coaching any more. Please run away immediately. It’s a sorry situation, I personally love personal mastery, I keep investing on myself and I don’t shy away from seeking help for myself foremost. It’s sad that most psychologist, psychotherapist and coaches stop the process of learn- ing and personal consulting for themselves. 2019 PAPERAZZI MAGAZINE 37