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seven months, then my dad. So the whole experience was very traumatic, there were times when they quarrelled. It was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. So I went to live with my dad, who had his own issues. The separation just left scars on everybody. My dad was never around. The least he could do was come around and give us money to buy food. So I started skipping school and missing classes, I became "street wise". All of this happened around the age of 9, and it was really terrible. Those were the darkest days of my life. I couldn't see beyond every single day. It continued for over four years until I met some people who began helping me. I didn't live on the streets, but I did everything all the street boys would do; I stole things I didn't need and every other thing that a typical street kid would do. Question: Can you please share one of those stealing experiences with us? Response: I wasn't a good thief. There was this particular time, the boys got together we planned to go and steal from a shop. The plan was this, 'Whatever you steal is yours', like nobody was sharing anything they got with another and everybody got in swiftly, stole what they had to steal, and left. It was a big supermarket so we just pretended like we were buying stuff and we just left when the job was done. I was the last person to go in, and I just didn't know what to do because I wasn't a good thief, and as I picked the biscuit I was going to steal I felt like people were looking at me. Doing all these things, I could tell it was peer pressure and other factors like my parents, but I couldn't stop it at that time. Along the line I changed schools and when I moved to the new school, the rst thing that occurred to me was the fact that I had a reputation in the previous school I attended. (We are currently trying to putting together a documentary with people who knew me in primary school and my secondary school, because I was two different persons at those times of my life.) You see, all these transitions were very timely, because when my parents separated I had just moved from primary school to secondary school, so the perception people had from JS1 to SS1 about me is not the perception that the people in primary school had I DARE SAY WE SAVED MORE LIVES THAN THE NIGERIAN POLICE FORCE.. about me, same with my SS2 to SS3. One of the volunteers who just recently joined the group was my classmate in primary school and when some people began saying stuff about me he could not believe it, because I used to correct my teacher's notes in primary school. Then again in secondary school I was like rst or second from the back, I skipped classes and all that. Question: So let's go back, rewind a bit and talk about that one person who helped you. Response: I will make this less complicated so you don't have a hard time putting everything together. I had a cousin who came from Lagos to school in Calabar and one night he was telling us about the things he used to do in Lagos, how he'd go out to help the community. He would go to the barracks, talk to the barracks chief, and all the while he was doing all these things, he was like 16 or 17. So what he would do was that he would take a message, rent a projector, loudspeaker, go and play it and then people would gather and watch and then after that he would make the altar call. Then he would go to secondary schools and give kids stuff; he would just basically help the community. We were in a dark room that night, when he was telling me and my younger brother all this and while he was talking, I was crying in the dark but he 13