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how to Address Holiday Cards D WRITTEN BY ASHLEY MAY on’t get caught wishing someone Happy New Year’s. Holiday cards can be trickier than they seem. Aside from tracking down mailing addresses, there’s grammar and etiquette to worry about. Here’s what you should know before sticking stamps on those envelopes: WRITE THE ADDRESS IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS Addresses should be printed in all capital letters, according to the U.S. Postal Service. This is to ensure that your cards arrive at the correct addresses. MISS OR MS. OR MRS. Miss is an unmarried woman or young girl under the age of 18. Mrs. is a married woman. Ms. can be used for any woman, no matter her marital status. Sharon Schweitzer, an international etiquette and modern manners expert, says you should always opt for formal titles. That’s Mrs., Ms., Miss and Mr. Traditional addresses for married cou- ples use a man’s first and last name: Mr. and Mrs. John Kelly. But, it’s also 2018. So, per Emily Post guide- lines, including the woman’s name is acceptable, and a woman’s name can go before a man’s. For unmarried couples, use her maiden name, such as Mr. John Smith and Ms. Mary Williams. Divorced women have the option of using their ex-husbands’ last names or using their maiden names. A legal name would take precedent. Widowed women can still be addressed with the late husband’s name (Mrs. John Smith) or using a Mrs. or Ms. in front of the woman’s name (Mrs. or Ms. Jane Smith) — ask the recipient’s prefer- ence, Schweitzer says. 20 HOLIDAY 2018 MONCLAIR MAGAZINE For married women keeping their maiden name, use her first name and maiden name and her spouse’s first and last name. Emily Post advises using Ms. in this case. For women who are engaged and those living with a spouse, use Ms. with the woman’s maiden name until married, Schweitzer says. IN BUSINESS, MS. IS USUALLY THE MOST APPROPRIATE. With all of that being said, how you address your cards often depends on your social circles. “Many people are very informal, and how a holiday card is mailed doesn’t impact their world,” says Schweitzer. HAPPY NEW YEAR OR HAPPY NEW YEAR’S OR HAPPY NEW YEARS? Do: Happy New Year. Season’s Greetings. Only capitalize the name of the holiday, not references to events in the new year. Example: Angie is hav- ing a baby in the new year. THE SMITHS’ OR SMITH’S OR SMITHS? Last name: Smith Do: Merry Christmas from the Smiths. You’re invited to the Smiths’ holiday party. From the Smith family. Don’t: From the Smith’s Last name: Jones Do: The Joneses. The Jones family. The Jones’ holiday party. (When a name ends in “s” add “es”) Don’t: From the Jones’ Last name: May Do: The Mays Don’t: The Maies Names ending in “ch” (unless it’s pronounced with a hard k, like “monarch”), s, sh, x and z require an “es” to make them plural. All other names simply use “s.” ● FORMAL TITLES