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SELF HELP
ROSE KLEIN
Southeast Hypnosis
[email protected]
www.southeasthypnosis.com
CONFIDENCE
in COMMUNICATION
S
ome people have natural talent for effective
communicate skills with an instinct to watch and
listen to people with the purpose of connection
and rapport. Linguistic Experts noted people
who are naturally good communicators are
good not because of what they say but rather how they
say it. We all want to communicate better with others so
here’s are some tips.
Talking is second nature for all of us. We have been
talking for so long that we become comfortable with
what we say that we fail to think that what we say has
repercussions. We neglect the meaning to how we say
our words.
Virginia Satir is a founding mother of family therapy.
Virginia wrote in her book The New People Making
that “we all have at thumb with a unique thumbprint.”
Effective communication begins with the recognition that
each of us communicate uniquely. We may use different
languages to communicate a common meaning in our
words.
Nero-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a blend of
psychology and linguistic technology. Syntonics is a
model of communication that means to be in harmony
with self and others. Interaction with others requires
powerful connections between two people that dovetails
each other outcome.
The first step for effective communication is to know
what you want. This is often the most difficult step.
Effective communicate begins with a well formulated
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outcome. An outcome is based on the result you want
and recognizing your desire for that result.
How do we find our way if we don’t know where we are
going? What if you decided to go on vacation and went
to the airport. You boarded a flight and you don’t know
where your flight would land. We typically never plan our
vacation like this.
Once you decide to take that vacation to your favorite
destination spot, you book your flight. You know the
dates, flight number, airports and check in time.
You started with a strong desire and willingness to
know what you want, where you want to be and that you
are persistently strong and capable of accomplishing
everything to achieve that outcome. A master
communicator always starts their message with
a desired outcome in mind.
An outcome is a result you want based on
sensory acuity skills. Sensory acuity skills are
based on imagination and visualization. In other
words, your ability to describe your outcomes
based on what you see more, hear more and
feel more than most people.
When thinking about the results you want,
define your outcome on a piece of paper
first assuming that you already achieved that
outcome. Describe what you want in terms of
the way you like to see things to happen and
how would this change your life? How about
the way you like to feel and about what you
would hear when you have the outcome.
To become a master communicator, you must harness,
continually develop and practice your skills so you can
communicate your message successfully with other
people. If you are not getting the response you want,
your skills in being more flexible in your communication
are vital. Are you flexible to change your behaviors until
you get the response you want?
When you aim for a specific desired result, goal
settings are broader and general terms with a series of
task oriented skills. Aim for a specific alignment of your
outcome with another person. Entertaining short and
long terms objectives are necessary. Most important,
Master communicators have a positive attitude.
This article is in a series of monthly educational tips written by
Rose Klein, hypnotist and owner of Southeast Hypnosis.