The Best Way To Say I Love You
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hugs
pats on the back
holding hands
thoughtful touches on
the arm, shoulder, or
face
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“Chances are that your partner expresses their love in their own primary love language. ”
you did or that you said,
It is essential for them that that made them feel loved?
you are physically present. Once you know that, check
And we are not even talking in which category this falls.
about the bedroom here.
Also, how does your spouse
The five categories do cov- express their love? When
er the primary love triggers did they really want to comfor almost everybody. But municate love and how did
within the five languages, they do it? Chances are that
there are plenty of dialects. they show love in their priPeople speak them in vari- mary love language. Try
ous ways. Yet, the concept reciprocating in the same
of the five languages ena- language and check how it
bles you to become aware. is coming across to them.
It helps to find the category of things to make your
loved one feel the butterflies in their stomach. How
to find out which language
is actually their primary?
Finally, learn from mistakes. What, is it that when
you fail to do it or say it, that
hurts your spouse deeply or
brings them deepest pain?
More often than not, this is
What’s Spouse’s Primary in the exact same category
as their primary love lanLove Language?
guage.
Did you get a good idea
about the five categories One love language will be
of expression? Then let’s the primary of your partner.
move on and check with But they might also appreciate some or all other exyour partner.
pressions as well. It’s just
Ask them what makes them that they feel it to a lesser
feel loved. What is it in gen- extent. One outcome of
eral? And more important: checking with your partner
What was the last thing that might be a prioritization of
the love languages. Rank
them from the primary one
down to the least important
one.
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