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of Hollywood. I wasn’t aware of what we would become
today. He’s been in the industry 18 years now. I came
alongside doing my music and then all of a sudden here
comes this TV show. We didn’t go to BET and offer to let
them come into our house, they approached us. We
work in ministry together, but on the whole I don’t work
with him on everything. He has a separate lane and
I’m doing what I can do to make mine brighter and bigger
too.
MMIA: You’re a wife, mom, grandmother, singer, actress,
entrepreneur, and so much more; how do you find
“me-time” with such a busy schedule.

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REBECCA: That’s a heavy one. I’ve been not quite on
the brink of a divorce but I was close. I will say that
commitment is a big part of marriage, there is a key to also
staying where you said you would stay. Once you choose,
I think you shouldn’t just react. You shouldn’t just run from
your problems. People today give up on their loved ones
without a second thought. I don’t advocate staying in
every situation. I see so many people who wish they would
have figured out and they go back to their former spouses
and say “I was wrong, I should not have let you go”. I think
there is always a way.
MMIA: Sometimes it’s hard for an established man to
accept a woman who is self-sufficient like yourself, when
you and Terry began dating years and years ago, how did
he react to your independence as a woman?
REBECCA: He liked it. He was a little bit shy and he had this
demeanor like a Christian boy, he was quiet and insecure,
and he was sweet and polite. He was, I think, intimidated
by me but not enough that he didn’t propose. He saw me
like his sidekick. I won’t say that he didn’t become a little
over controlling because he was the breadwinner.

REBECCA: I don’t. I haven’t had a massage since I don’t
know when. For me, my “me-time” is just my time to be
with God. I get up in the morning and talk to God and pray
in the middle of the day. I enjoy shopping, I enjoy traveling,
and I enjoy spending time with my kids. And it feels like
the most rewarding thing I do. I don’t like the analogy that
you have to “me-time” all the time. You recharge when
you connect to creator and talk to God and get his insight
on life. You feel alive and you know the meaning of life.
A massage cannot do that for me. I am more energized
when I share with my kids. My daughter was here telling
me some of her problems and pouring her heart out to me.
That makes me feel better to be connected to my kids.
That is a healing in and of itself