MUTING Female Sexuality
Will we ever find a happy medium when it comes to
celebrating and subduing female sexuality?
Written By Dr. Carlen Costa
“SHOW ME
YOUR TITS.”
You love to love me but it only works
when you ’re calling the shots, and
that ’s a problem. Our sexual climate
asserts that when someone tells me
they like my chest, I’m supposed to
be excited and exaggerate their
presence. And if someone tells me
to shake my ass and wear daisy
dukes, it ’s okay as long as I have
“ hot ” legs. But when I voice the fact
that I love to fuck, that apparently
becomes an issue.
The silencing of female pleasure
and desire has somehow become
a problem, unless it ’s for monetar y
gain. Long gone are the days of
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going to your physician for ways to
help you masturbate and relieve
your supposed hysteria. Welcome to
a world where my assets, as long as
their exposure is for the pleasure of a
man, are acceptable.
As Judith Butler says in Gender
Trouble, “The ver y subject of women
is no longer understood in stable or
abiding terms;... but there is ver y little
agreement after all on what it is that
constitutes, or ought to constitute, the
categor y of women.” This was written
in 1990 and still rings true today.
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