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LETS TALK ABOUT THE CYCLE

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CYCLE OF
VIOLENCE

NE WOMENS TRIUMPH IN BREAKING THE
CYCLE AND LEAVING A MENDED FAMILY
LEGACY. HOW SHE TAUGHT HER CHILDREN
THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT NORMAL OR
ACCPETABLE.

The cycle of violence is viscious, it creeps up
on you like a disease. After you have been
isolated from family and friends because of it,
TCV can lead you to despression and even suicide
.even in some cases murder
The term cycle of violence refers to repeated and
dangerous acts of violence as a cyclical pattern,
associated with high emotions and doctrines of
retribution or revenge. The pattern, or cycle, repeats
and can happen many times during a relationship.
Each phase may last a different length of time and
over time the level of violence may increase. The
cycle can happen hundreds of times in an abusive
relationship. Each stage lasts a different amount of
time in a relationship. The total cycle can take
anywhere from a few hours to a year or more to
complete. It is important to remember that not all
domestic violence relationships fit the cycle. Often,
as time goes on, the ‚making-up‘ and ‚calm‘ stages
disappear

Family Legacies

INTERGENERATIONAL CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

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VIOLENCE THAT IS PASSED FROM PARENT TO CHILD, OR SIBLING TO
SIBLING. CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ARE LIKELY TO
DEVELOP BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS, SUCH AS REGRESSING,
EXHIBITING OUT OF CONTROL BEHAVIOR, AND IMITATING BEHAVIORS.

Domestic violence if left to its self in the dark it will thrive
on fear and violence

CHILDREN MAY THINK THAT VIOLENCE IS AN ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR
OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS AND BECOME EITHER THE ABUSED OR
THE ABUSER. AN ESTIMATED 1/5 TO 1/3 OF TEENAGERS SUBJECT TO
VIEWING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SITUATIONS EXPERIENCE TEEN
DATING VIOLENCE, REGULARLY ABUSING OR BEING ABUSED BY THEIR

Fear as a child was my constant companion. I grew up in a large family consisting of 2 adults, 5 boys and 3 girls. In
this home we all bore wittiness to and
were victims of years of sexual, verbal,
mental and physical abusive domestic
violence. My step farther was a very violent and unbalanced human. His abuse
done grate harm to not only his victims,
there is far reaching consequences to
this abuse.
I left home as soon as I could. because
of the domestic violence my foundations for life were shattered. As a young
woman the fear stayed with me. I met
my husband when I was 17 once we

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married he started drinking more and
more with the alcohol came violence. I
fell pregnant with my first child Nicole
at 20 and had my son at 22 by then I
was hearing about domestic violence
more and more about the effects on
children. That day I decided to get help
and went into intense counseling. It
took many years to unravel the poison
of domestic violence on my journey,
my marriage broke down and I found
myself raising my two children alone.
It was the most amazing time of my life.
I also told my children of the abuse I
grew up with and what happened to me.
Domestic violence happens in secrecy

PARTNERS VERBALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SEXUALLY AND/OR

so I made sure that my kids new what
it was and never put up with it for any
reason. The more I read I empowered
my self and with this knowledge came
not fear but anger and with that anger
the man that inflicted so much pain on
me as a child had to face the justices
system and was jailed for 2years and
the best thing is he has a record and he
has to live with it every day!!! It took
5 years but to tell my kids that he went
to jail for what he done was the best
message I could give them on sexual,
verbal, mental and physical abusive
and domestic violence.
By Tania Farrelly

PHYSICALLY. THIRTY TO 50% OF DATING RELATIONSHIPS CAN EXHIBIT
THE SAME CYCLE OF ESCALATING VIOLENCE IN THEIR MARITAL
.RELATIONSHIPS

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