And let's remember, not everyone has the same goals! Some people don't want to travel, they want to stay at home and raise a family in one place... others don't want a family but they want to spend their time traveling... there are people who want to become their own boss, people who want to work somewhere different... no matter what YOU classify as success & happiness, go for it and have no regrets! Build your list and start making it happen.
Living life to the fullest does not mean you need to earn millions or have multiple houses or drive expensive cars or be reckless, living life to the fullest means living it to the best of YOUR personal definition.
For years before I knew who I truly was and I was comfortable with who I was, I would aim to please everyone else but me. It wasn’t until my path came across personal development that I realized I needed to put myself first if I was to lead a much more fulfilling journey.
One of the best ways to figure out who you truly are, what you like and what you enjoy, is by spending time on your own without people telling you what you should and shouldn't do. Most people get so caught up on what their friends and families think that they miss out on a lot of the great moments life has to offer.
Let me give you an example. If you have read my first book ‘Creating a Kick-Ass Attitude’, you will know I love love love Disney and I have gone to all the major parks in Paris, LA & Orlando.
Until last year I had always gone with someone else. Then for a few months I kept saying I needed a day out in Disneyland Paris ( as that is the closest to where I'm based) but everyone was too busy! Where most people would have kept on waiting, I thought, 'I'm going on my own! ' so I did! And I had the best day out ever! I jumped on the Eurostar bright and early into Paris, got on the French metro system to Disneyland and shortly after I was walking around with the biggest smile on my face you could ever imagine.
This time I did not have to rush anywhere, compromise on the order of what rides to do, where to eat... I was able to enjoy the atmosphere in a relaxed manner and simply enjoying a day out with me and my thoughts in what I consider not only my happy place but one of the happiest places on earth.
I also take myself out to the movies or for a meal, which although to me it seems like a normal thing to do, you'll be surprised as to how many people would never dream of being seen on their own doing that! As a matter of fact I have some personal close friends of mine who are always shocked when I mention I'm going to the movies on my own!
And hey! Don't get me wrong, I love going to the movies with my buddies and going for dinner too, but the older you get the more you appreciate doing things on your own.
In my early 20's I probably had that thinking... " going to the movies alone? Nooo I can't do that, what will people think ?" As my way of thinking developed and I grew older it changed from, “what will people think” to “what do I think?”
We must always remember that the only opinion in life that should matter is ours. The person we need to please the most is ourselves and if you can't figure out on your own what makes you happy, no matter who you surround yourself with, you'll never achieve that level of peace and self awareness that we all deserve to achieve greatness in life.