Why are we scared to admit our flaws ? We keep forgetting that all human beings are flawed , so for us to pretend like we aren ’ t is a façade — and everyone knows it . The truth is we feel so much more connected with people who let their wall down , that reveal their flaws in ways we relate to , because it reminds us we ’ re not alone .
We ’ ve become accustomed to gaining esteem by making someone else feel less than , which inspires us to pretend like everything is fine — I ’ m not sad , I ’ m not insecure , I haven ’ t had any trouble . A sad result from this toxic cognitive dissonance is an extreme divide not only in logic , but with people . They ’ ll feel intimidated to be around us so they slowly distance them selves until we discover the only person willing to hear our story is our mother .
Love & Sex are meant to be mutually inclusive . The circuits in our brain for love and sex feed off each other , which is why it ’ s easy to create the habit of meaningless sex or love without intimacy should you try . But we ’ re always at our most content when one is an expression of the other because it ’ s how it was meant to be .
When sex is an expression of love then love not only becomes more valuable , but sex means something so much more . It turns into something you forgot it was : personal , intimate , precious — all the things we want it to be .
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