Become the author
of your life
promises? What happens if you miss a day or two
and all your promises start to accumulate?
To do what I said I would do by
when I said I would do it.
Ok, so this is how it works: each promise has a deadline
– always specify this deadline when you make a
So basically, to go through with all your commitments
For example, when I promise to call you tomorrow at
17:00 and I don’t do that, then that is the end of that
promise. The promise has been ‘completed’, and the
result is negative. That promise does not continue
to linger around. You should now decide whether to
recommit to it or not, e.g. I commit to call you a day
The definition didn’t seem difficult; I thought, I can do
that. When I looked into it further, I also learned that
there is some philosophy, some principle behind it, and
I began to study it at Creative Consciousness.
How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Or not
feeling like doing something that you should be doing?
Or even afraid to embark on particular tasks?
Integrity is based on the idea that you need to build
it like a muscle. The higher your level of integrity, the
more likely you are to achieve success.
According to Remco Vrielink, Trainer and Coach at
Creative Consciousness, these are the ‘viruses’ in our
system. And there is only one way to deal with them:
wipe your system clean.
This should prevent your promises from accumulating,
because each promise is given a particular time span.
Keeping every promise you make is
the key to a successful life.
“Real integrity is doing the right thing,
knowing that nobody’s going to know
whether you did it or not.” Oprah Winfrey
I recently attended an extremely inspirational talk at
the Quantified Self meeting in Berlin. The speaker,
Remco Vrielink, touched on a problem that many
people suffer from chronically but cannot even name,
unable to pinpoint what they’re doing wrong. And even
when they do, the words diminish the gravity of the
problem. The topic Remco talked about was phrased
in many different ways: time management, getting
organised, work–life balance, productivity, keeping
promises and so on. But Remco pushed away all these
over-used clichés, and presented a fresh perspective to
the problem. He named the solution “integrity”.
Practice your integrity and then
your life will change.
I was sceptical at first. I didn’t know what exactly they
meant by “integrity”, and I didn’t understand how it
could work. So I didn’t pay much attention to it. But a
year later I had a big goal in mind, something which I
really wanted to achieve. My goal was to qualify as a
professional personal development trainer. But I had
no idea how I was going to get there because I had zero
background in training, teaching, presenting or public
speaking. Besides, I was terrified of public speaking.
If you’re asking yourself how changing the name of a
problem can help to solve it, just keep on reading, and
you’ll understand how the weight of one word can do
away with the majority of mayhem in your life.
That’s when I thought, let’s see if this integrity thing
really works, let’s put it to the test. I knew the worldrenowned life coach, writer and speaker Anthony
Robbins had also mentioned it, so I decided to give it a
SE: Hi, Remco. Thanks for joining us at Mash. Can
you please tell us a bit about yourself an g history?
Remco: In October 2011 I took a training course with
Creative Consciousness called Master I – A New State of
Consciousness. The training focused heavily on integrity
and asserted that integrity could help you to achieve
To explain the principle behind integrity, I found the
following analogy useful: imagine that you are a system,
a computer. Your body and brain are the hardware and
your mind and subconscious are the software. Your
software consists of different programs. Working on
your integrity is like creating a new program, or a new
app in your system. This program, called integrity, runs
consistently, is open at all times, and it says: I do what
If you don’t do what you promise,
that immediately weakens your
program; it’s like a virus.
S.E.: But how do we create this new program?
S.E. How about keeping the list of promises
realistic? How do we know how many promises to
make per day?
Simple. You make promises and commitments, and
simply fulfil them. These commitments can be m YH[