MASH Magazine Issue 2 - Page 20

INTEGRITY: Become the author of your life promises? What happens if you miss a day or two and all your promises start to accumulate? To do what I said I would do by when I said I would do it. Ok, so this is how it works: each promise has a deadline – always specify this deadline when you make a promise. So basically, to go through with all your commitments and promises. For example, when I promise to call you tomorrow at 17:00 and I don’t do that, then that is the end of that promise. The promise has been ‘completed’, and the result is negative. That promise does not continue to linger around. You should now decide whether to recommit to it or not, e.g. I commit to call you a day later. The definition didn’t seem difficult; I thought, I can do that. When I looked into it further, I also learned that there is some philosophy, some principle behind it, and I began to study it at Creative Consciousness. How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Or not feeling like doing something that you should be doing? Or even afraid to embark on particular tasks? Integrity is based on the idea that you need to build it like a muscle. The higher your level of integrity, the more likely you are to achieve success. According to Remco Vrielink, Trainer and Coach at Creative Consciousness, these are the ‘viruses’ in our system. And there is only one way to deal with them: wipe your system clean. This should prevent your promises from accumulating, because each promise is given a particular time span. Keeping every promise you make is the key to a successful life. “Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.” Oprah Winfrey I recently attended an extremely inspirational talk at the Quantified Self meeting in Berlin. The speaker, Remco Vrielink, touched on a problem that many people suffer from chronically but cannot even name, unable to pinpoint what they’re doing wrong. And even when they do, the words diminish the gravity of the problem. The topic Remco talked about was phrased in many different ways: time management, getting organised, work–life balance, productivity, keeping promises and so on. But Remco pushed away all these over-used clichés, and presented a fresh perspective to the problem. He named the solution “integrity”. Practice your integrity and then your life will change. I was sceptical at first. I didn’t know what exactly they meant by “integrity”, and I didn’t understand how it could work. So I didn’t pay much attention to it. But a year later I had a big goal in mind, something which I really wanted to achieve. My goal was to qualify as a professional personal development trainer. But I had no idea how I was going to get there because I had zero background in training, teaching, presenting or public speaking. Besides, I was terrified of public speaking. If you’re asking yourself how changing the name of a problem can help to solve it, just keep on reading, and you’ll understand how the weight of one word can do away with the majority of mayhem in your life. That’s when I thought, let’s see if this integrity thing really works, let’s put it to the test. I knew the worldrenowned life coach, writer and speaker Anthony Robbins had also mentioned it, so I decided to give it a SE: Hi, Remco. Thanks for joining us at Mash. Can you please tell us a bit about yourself an g history? Remco: In October 2011 I took a training course with Creative Consciousness called Master I – A New State of Consciousness. The training focused heavily on integrity and asserted that integrity could help you to achieve go. To explain the principle behind integrity, I found the following analogy useful: imagine that you are a system, a computer. Your body and brain are the hardware and your mind and subconscious are the software. Your software consists of different programs. Working on your integrity is like creating a new program, or a new app in your system. This program, called integrity, runs consistently, is open at all times, and it says: I do what I promise. If you don’t do what you promise, that immediately weakens your program; it’s like a virus. S.E.: But how do we create this new program? S.E. How about keeping the list of promises realistic? How do we know how many promises to make per day? Simple. You make promises and commitments, and simply fulfil them. These commitments can be m YHž[