Marlborough Magazine November 18 | Page 8

8 Q & A LIFESTYLE & WELLBEING Q. Hi Naya. Can you explain to me why it is so difficult to get any answers from my GP? I seem to get the same tests done over and over, with no answers. I’m no professional but it seems to me that there should be other avenues to take. I feel like I’ve been put in the too-hard basket and am not getting the help I need. A. We are so lucky in New Zealand to have social medicine. The problem is that with social medicine, comes a medical model of treating population, as opposed to specialising. Don’t let your Dr push you out the door without the direction you need. Ask your Dr to refer you to a specialist. Even though it seems costly, it may save you lots of pain and trouble in the long run. Q. My flatmate won’t stop giving my dog snacks. He thinks it’s great that the dog has become his buddy, and I have no problem with that, but I am concerned about his health (the dog). I feel frustrated and angry. Jo A. Hi Jo, You could always explain things to your flatmate again, however, this time offer him to use the designated snacks that you provide. Maybe note how well he and the doggy are getting along, and suggest they take up walking together. I know it feels awful to be helpless when someone goes against your wishes, and is causing harm to your dog, so if that doesn’t work, I’d be looking for a new flatmate. Q. I’ve been invited to my first ever girls weekend away. I should be excited but I can’t help worrying that I won’t fit in. First of all, I haven’t got fabulous clothes or money to spare, and I’m not the best at conversation. Now that I’ve said that, I feel like cancelling. LP A. LP, a first time at anything is always going to be a little daunting, as well as exciting. Focus on the exciting bit…The chance to learn to be part of a group, the chance to learn how to converse, contribute, and be a great listener. These days clothes aren’t naya cunningham really as much of a marker of class or sophistication, as so many people do their own thing. If you can invest in a nice pair of sunnies, that will help carry any outfit you put together from your now wardrobe. You were invited, so your friends can see your value, even if you can’t. This is a good time to start getting to know yourself better. Have a great time! Q. My favourite café seems to be going downhill. I have lunch there 3-4 times a week. The food quality has changed, and last week I bought something that had obviously gone off but was still packaged for sale. I hate to see this happen. My sister refuses to go there anymore. Is it ok to say something to the owners? Sal A. Hi Sal, Yes I think it would not only be helpful, but also appreciated. A kind word to one of the staff could be an easier option. Just say what you said to me. mind and body concepts For further support call to make a confidential appointment with Naya Ph 579 5606 WWW.NAYACUNNINGHAM.COM HAVE A QUESTION FOR OUR LOCAL EXPERT? Email [email protected]. All correspondence is confidential. naya cunningham mind and body therapy Save $$$ on BERNINA + bernette sewing machines + accessories this holiday season! www.mybernette.com Price valid 14 Nov - 24 Dec 2018, while stocks last. EXCLUDES spare parts, needles, bobbins and bobbin cases. www.bernina.com