4 . Voyeurism
Fantasies about watching someone else undress or have sex are very common . In fact , 60 % of my participants reported having fantasized about this before , although men had more voyeurism fantasies than did women .
Voyeurism is appealing to many because we are very visual creatures when it comes to sex — it ’ s sort of like watching real-life porn . However , voyeurism fantasies often involve sneaking around , too , so part of the appeal might be the thrill of doing something you ’ re not supposed to .
5 . Exhibitionism
A lot of people fantasize about putting on a show . Specifically , 42 % of my participants reported having a fantasy about publicly exposing themselves or having sex in front of an audience . I distinguished between consensual and non-consensual exhibitionism in my survey , and the 42 % figure refers to cases where there is a consenting audience .
About 10 % of my participants had fantasized about the non-consensual form , such as when they flash a stranger or masturbate in public .
Consensual exhibitionism fantasies are likely driven by a few things — amping up the excitement by having spectators and knowing that other people find you attractive or sexy .
Non-consensual exhibitionism is a totally different thing — that ’ s often driven by a desire to shock or offend someone else .
6 . Age play
Some of my participants fantasized about taking on different roles and ages . For example , 11 % had fantasized about dressing up and / or acting as a child .
I found a lot of overlap between these fantasies and BDSM because they often involved themes of dominance / submission and / or humiliation , so these fantasies are often just a variant of deeper BDSM interests .
7 . Furries
About 9 % of my participants said they had fantasized about dressing up as an animal to have sex .
Furry fantasies were related to a broader tendency to change oneself in one ’ s sexual fantasies , which suggests that they might often be about psychological escape . Many of us become different people — and sometimes different creatures — in our fantasies because it provides an escape from self-awareness , allowing you to focus more on sex
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